Is it healthy to start dating a man when his wife only died 2 months ago?

Answer 1

It isn't unhealthy if he has fully grieved the loss of his first wife. Think about this situation from this man's perspective, he is used to a companion. He loved being married or he would never have been married in the first place. It is a compliment to his first wife that he would start dating again. There is no time limit for mourning, he will probably always miss her, but 2 months probably isn't enough time to allow oneself to experience all the stages of grief. The generally accepted time-frame among mental health professionals is a year. While that may seem like a long time its important to fully mourn your loss so that your next relationship will be be a happy & healthy one. I suspect in this case that he's masking his grief over his loss by showing interest in you. The above poster is so correct. Just be friends for now and enjoy each other. There is indeed no time limit on grieving so take it slow and easy. You aren't doing anything wrong and he does need companionship. Stats show that widowers (male) do not do well on their own while widows can remain alone for the rest of their lives or, in some cases they are lucky enough to meet another man (if they want too.) I know more widows that choose not to remarry and some will date or even have a male friend and many will go back to college or start working again and remain alone for the rest of their lives. Good luck