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Is it common for the abused victim to be smarter and better looking and more socially accepted than the abuser?
Yes. But it is also common for the abuser to be all of those things. Abusive realtions are common, physical and verbal, romantic and non.
What percent of abuse cases go unreported?
A lot sadly. Sometimes when a person gets abused the abuser says don't tell anybody I did this to you or I will kill you. That is what usually happens. It is really sad that some people have the nerve to even do things like that.
Is it normal to be in a situation where once you learn that your partner or parent is an abuser you start to do things that intentionally anger him to try to get toward emotional recovery?
For some victims it can be normal in their eyes, but really, it's a dangerous thing to do. If the abuser is indeed a physical abuser (even mental abuser) and the victim goads them on they are headed for disaster. The reason a victim may come to this point is because they feel depressed, could care less if they live or die and it's "no holds bared." The victim is full of rage and often times would rather die fighting back rather than taking a beating. Our survival instincts kick in (some quicker than others.) It's wise to just leave the situation and go to an Abused Women's Center and they will help protect you, put you in a "safe house" and help you on your way to recovery through programs. Good luck Marcy
Does an abusive partner feel the need to keep in contact with the partner they abused on a regular basis?
Yes. Abusers tend to have compulsive behavior, live in the past and through others with an unhealthy dependency (very much cowards), and will most likely be obsessed with their victim eternally. They will do anything to get the "sick dance" (the common relationship that exists between the abuser and abused) going again and if the victim is not careful they may find themself going back into the same unhealthy psychological stage of feeling sorry for someone who wants to harm them, thinking again that he's not that bad and just has some problems etc., or maybe she did things to have brought that out of him. Wrong...it has nothing to do with his current life. This is a story that started long before the abused ever knew the abuser, as well as the abused also has a story that helped in placing her in this relationship in life. there is an ebb and flow in play. Not all abused are women, but more than 95% of them are.
Can an emotionally abusive partner really be in love with you?
Abusers and their victims form dyad's of codependency. It takes two to tango and an equal number to sustain a long term abusive relationship. The abuser and the abused form a bond, a dynamic, and a dependence. Expressions such as "follies a deux", "shared psychosis", and the "Stockholm Syndrome" capture facets two of a myriad of this danse macabre. It often ends fatally. It is always an excruciatingly painful affair. Being a great believer in common sense and having been in the same situation for many years, I think the answer here is very obvious. Would you allow your self to be abused by someone who didn't matter to you? YES, THE ABUSED CAN AND OFTEN DOES LOVE THE ABUSER. THEY KNOW THAT HE CAN BE A GOOD PERSON. See "Stockholm Syndrome". It's not genuine love - it's a psychological yearning based on fear and control. There is no sound reason to really love an abuser - you can have compassion for them - but not the kind of love that motivates you to stay in a relationship with someone who treats you like crap.
What kinds of things can family do to help a substance abuser become clean?
The best thing that family can do for a substance abuser is stage an intervention. Once that intervention has been staged, present the abuser with the opportunity to go to rehab.
Is it common for an abused woman to intentionally start doing things that she knows will infuriate the abuser to drive the point home that he doesn't own her?
No it's not common, but many women just simply come to the end of their rope and depression sets in. When this happens she has an attitude that she simply doesn't care if she lives or dies and believe it or not that's when the survival instincts kick in and she can go after her abuser. Fighting back against your abuser isn't a smart thing to do (the woman will often lose) and the best thing is, to phone the "Abused Women's Center" to get the support you need. They provide you with a place to stay (safe house) counseling, legal help, etc. It's a waste of time fighting an abuser and many women are killed over a lot less than this. Good luck Marcy It seems a little wreckless to me. I suggest that it would be far more intelligent to just get away from the abuser. You don't need him to be in your life at all.
Why does the US have a high child abuse rate compared to many countries. a. economic pressures b. we are a violent nation c. We are capable and willing to identify and confront the issue?
All of those things contribute to the child abuse rate. A huge factor in what causes a person to be an abuser though is if he or she was abused. There are so many people being abused now, and not all of them are seeking therapy or realizing on their own that they shouldn't feel guilty and they need to not continue the cycle of abuse just because someone else did. The more people are abused, the more people will be abused. Other countries may seem to have a lower abuse rate only because reporting and statistics kept by the US are emore reliable and readily published.
Why do kids who get abused become abusers themselves?
When abused, a kid practices blocking out their pain. They use this learned technique to block out the pain they inflict on others as an abuser. A few other things are occurring during a child's abuse, like the desire to never be abused again, and the mental image of abusing the abuser.
How do you make an abuser regret hurting you?
Unfortunately you cannot always make that happen. You cannot force someone to feel something that they don't feel. You can express the pain you felt physically and emotionally during the abuse. But that is about it. You cannot force someone to feel sorry for something if they aren't sorry. It would make a lot of things easier if you could though but it is just something that your abuser will have to figure out for him/her self.
How does a narissistic nental abuser twist things so people think the victim is the abuser?
They do it very skilfully. It means that they must be able to know how to put on a convincing act.
When sociopaths are younger do they do things like cut off doll heads and or limbs?
Yes if they are being abused or if they have been abused, however if they are shown love they will not do such things.
