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well..me being a teenager, i don't think so.

when i do something wrong, or get an

attitude with my parents, they take away my

cell phone, or ground me for the weekend.

which sucks since usually weekends are

when us teens like to hang out with our friends.

so instead of spanking your teen, try taking

something away from him/her, or not letting

them go out.

AnswerNo, when your child was five and touching something they shouldn't you remove their hand and say no. You may have to do this numerous times and if that wasnt working you remove them from the area and divert their attention. With a teen, as above, you do what is age appropriate. What message is it sending to them if you spank them. What ever it is that they are doing, you assess the situation and react accordingly. Now if your teenager has been allowed to be disrespectul and out of control since they were younger you cannot be surprised now but if this is something that has just come about, it can be influenced from outside the home or something that is going on in the home. Here are some examples of how I handle my teenager. If he speaks to me disrespectfully, I immediately, go up to him, within arms length and say, Excuse me, but remember who you are speaking to, you will not talk to me like that. If a pout or a face insues then I tell him "That is not going to help your cause, so wipe away the attitude. If he does something that is unacceptable, I ask why he did what he did and take a privilege away, something that will really affect his everyday life, like my son loves to skateboard, then he loses his skate board for a period of time. If my son does poorly in school he loses the privelege to go to school dances or community events. If he doesnt do what is asked of him, when he asks for something, the answer is no. I reinforce good behavior with positive reactions and poor behavior with discipline. I also remind him that there is a right and wrong way to do everything and the choice that he makes will reflect in his privileges. He does not get allowance to clean his room or make his bed or do the dishes, anything that the rest of us in the house have to do so does he and being a member of a household means pulling your weight were it is needed and asked for without complaints. I come from the old school, you earn everything that you would like that is extra and when you don't take care of your business properly, then you have consequences. I know this is all easier said then done because our teens now have to try so much harder to fit in but giving them healthy positive ways to make better choices for themselves now while we are with them will help them to be better, more productive adults, when we are not. Its not always easy but who ever said it would be was on some good stuff. Good luck. AnswerTHis is kind of off topiic, but PARAGRAPHS ARE YOUR FRIENDS. It is much easier to read something if it is broken up into nice lil paragraphs.

Spanking young teens may not be that bad, but once they hit 14-15, it is certainly time for a change. Spanking teaches lessons that grounding doesn't, as I experienced in my younger days.

You really shouldn't spank teens. I am 14 and my dad spanks me hard at least once a week

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