My daughter and her kids are being verbally abused..What can I do.?

Answer 1

Go to her with a few other family or friends and have a intervention sort of. If her kids are small have someone else with kids have a play date and get the ball rolling on getting her to realize the damage it is causing her and will cause her children. She probably has low self esteem and no confidence in herself. See if she want all of you to talk to the abuser, this is not something to let go because verbal abuse is a precusor to violence, if it hasn't already happened. Bring booklet/articles with you about the effects this has on adults and children. Bring some meeting area's she can go to for herself. Bring some that can be suggested to the abuser. Support her and help her, ask her what she would like to do about the situation, take her to abuse meetings so she can hear others stories and what happened to them and what they did. In the phone book their are numbers for abuse hotline, get them to mail her a questionaire so she can see it with her own eyes, if you can get ahold of one at the local womans shelter or the like. Please don't give up, the only hope she has are people like you that care.

Answer 2

Point out your daughters abusiveness when it occurs. Tell her that there is more then one way to address an issue than being abusive. She has learned through childhood that if she becomes abusive and walks away slaming doors ect. she will not have to do anything she does not want to do. Your job is to get the message across to her that adults do not behave in that manner. Make her believe that being an adult means putting her shoulder to the wheel (in as much as her contempories do). You should do this in a way that exposes her to the fulfillment and enjoyment that people get when co-operating with each other. Teach her the satisfaction of accomplishment. Hope this helps.