Should I marry someone I cheated on?

Answer 1

No. No matter what excuse he gives, the main point is that he didn't love you enough to say no to the other women. Nothing has changed since then. Your relationship is not on solid ground. ___________________________________________________________________________________ Not all advise is good advise! Some people react with myopic emotional prejudice without taking all the relevant information into consideration. Before following someone's advise you must consider all that you have to gain or loose. A good relationship is based on dependability, compassion, respect and compromise. You should determine if your relationship is worth it or not by your partner's ability to demonstrate these important qualities. You must determine how many years you can tolerate their worst characteristic becoming more intolerable as the passion you feel, diminishes.

Answer 2

That's a good question, and the short answer is: it depends. So let's analyze the situation… Was the cheating she disclosed to you the only cheating she's ever had? If not, she could certainly be at risk of doing it again. It's not so much "once a cheater, always a cheater," but rather, "once a habitual cheater, always a cheater." If she only strayed the one time (for the reasons she claims), there's definitely hope. People can certainly learn from their mistakes, providing they refrain from repeating the behaviors that got them into trouble in the first place. Pay careful attention to the answers she gives in regard to her past behavior and the reasons for it. Read between the lines and listen to your gut.

Until you discuss the underlying issues, you should delay proposing or marriage.

If you're meant to spend a lifetime together, taking things slowly can only solidify your relationship. And above all - be honest with yourself. If you know in your heart you will never be able to fully trust this woman, you won't find lasting happiness with her. Good luck. source: http://askanita.wordpress.com/2008/08/11/should-i-marry-a-cheater/

Answer 3

I would say no, because two wrongs do not make it right. The two of you should talk it out (with or without a therapist help).

If you cheat on her, may or may not make you feel better.

Maybe you and her need time apart to work things through, however they turn out.

Answer 4

If you feel you can resist temptation, then maybe. Do you feel like this is the only person, if they die you die, your only love for the rest of your life?