What are signs that your boyfriend is cheating on you if you are in a long distance relationship?

Answer 1

If you're having trust issues perhaps a long distance relationship is not for you and your girlfriend. Talk to her candidly about your feelings and what is going on. If she is not mature enough to commit or you are not confident enough in who you are to accept what she says, perhaps you should move on.

A::She wont call when she tells you she will or wont come online. Even if she does call she will seem distant and busy or preoccupied. Her music taste will change and she will ask you what you think of certain artists you never knew she liked. One of the best way to check is if she has a profile on some thing like facebook or my space. Read her walls to find out what her firends talk about and you might get a clue. One other way is for you to disappear for a few days. Like don't call as much and pretend to be busy. This will show if she actually cares about you and misses you. If you get a negative vibe from her it doesn't mean she is cheating with you it could also mean she might not want to be with you. So cut your losses and just let it go.

Answer 2

They make up reasons for getting off the phone or internet when things start to get too personal.

ANSWER:

There are ways you can tell if your spouse have a long distance relationship. Especially if you he works a bit closer to where you live. But there are also some married man who travel for business, so if this is the facts, it will be hard for you to find out if he is doing it. The only way you can do right now is make a list of what time he leaves for work and the time he comes home. Then if he also travel you can also make a list on that. Now if you finalize this list you have and your husband if short of hours being home or even taking a long time for him to comes home, that will be the sign. Secondly pay attention to his cell phone, not the numbers he have inside his cell but the monthly statement we all get every month from the company that owns the cell phone. This will be your leverage... last but not the least his computer at home..

Answer 3

Less contact. Otherwise, there are no ways to know - if you don't want her to know- don't mention it, and she doesn't spend enough time with you to see your body language or changed habits. Oh, and the gut feeling can play funny tricks when on a long-distance relationship, so mind that.

• If you have been phoning or emailing each other and he contacts you less and less. If he was making an effort on his holidays or long weekends to come see you and he has stopped doing this, then it sounds like he has lost interest. Long distance relationships are tough to hang onto and please take solace in the fact that there are so many people who have long distance relationships that break-up. I would simply go visit him and see what is up (if you can) and communicate one-on-one and find out where your relationship stands. If he's ignoring you, then you must move on. There are a lot of other nice guys out there.
• Two words: Unavailability and Inconsistency..these two things ALWAYS mean something is up.
• Trust your intuition. I didn't think my boyfriend would ever cheat but there was this gut feeling that wasn't there before. The signs you should look for:

1. His contact pattern with you changes. He doesn't instant message, call or send emails as often (or he starts sending more of them to cover up) or changes his routine times for doing these sorts of things, ie. he is unavailable when he used to available. Rather than wanting to spend all night chatting he has to cut his conversation with you short to "do something". I noticed my CBF's IM messages to me were lagging when we were online. I found out it was because he was talking to me and someone else at the same time.
2. He starts talking about new places he "checked out on his own" or with new "friend(s)" when he is really not that kind of guy. Or, he starts talking to you about topics that never interested him before and not related to his work but is now compelling to him.
3. He stops sharing details about his life. For instance, you have to draw out who these "new friend(s)" are and how they met etc. You may also notice when you are in town you never get to meet the "new friend(s)" because he wants to spend 24/7 with you (not true, but you will want to believe it). You may also notice that he doesn't take you to the "cool place" he discovered when he was out and about on his own or with his new "buddy". He gets angry at you or accuses you of controlling, snoopy or being bossy when you ask about his new friends. He reminds you that he is allowed to have friends that are just his friends not yours.
4. He no longer wants you to tag along to the grocery store, to get his hair cut or other little errand (you will find he was off making a call to her or trying to meet with her). Before he wouldn't dream of leaving you at home alone.
5. Rather than begging you to come down and see him he encourages you to catch up with your friends or work over the week-end or tells you that he has to work all week-end himself and he won't have much time for you if you come down so you might want to think of staying home (truth - he has a date with someone else).
6. When you come down to see him he has spruced up his place or asks you to help him pick out some new towels or plates or some other housekeeping item he has never showed an interest in before (he wants to make a good impression on the new woman). Ditto on the clothing front. If he has invested in new clothes and is on a diet chances are pretty good that he isn't doing it to look good for you.
7. You notice new bath products in the bathroom. New linens in the bedroom. Fresh flowers already in a vase looking a couple days old in his house. Or things that you placed in the bathroom are moved or no longer there.
8. His computer now has a password when it didn't before. You notice that he now wipes out the history files on his computer (this is to make sure you can't follow what he has been up to - can you say dating web site). He switches the computer screen when you walk into the room or tries to hide the screen from you. He turns his computer off or no longer wants you to use it to surf or check your email.
9. His car smells different or he starts using cologne or buys a new scent when he never used the stuff before.
10. He starts being short or critical with you over little things. Or asks "why you don't ever ....." (fill in with something the new woman does he likes or even dislikes).
11. He makes sure you have all your stuff before you leave. Before he began cheating my CBF could care less if I left something behind because I would get it another time.
12. He switches tenses. When he used to talk about the two of you he is now just talking about himself, ie. "We should go to..." is now "I should go to ...". Other examples: "We should get a puppy" is now "I have been thinking of getting a puppy" or "Where should we go on vacation this year" is now "I am thinking of going to ..." or "Our house" is now "My house". Little subtle and not subtle shifts in talking.
13. He comments on you losing or gaining weight when you have done no such thing. (Someone else he has been grabbing onto is bigger or smaller than you.)
14. He likes clothes on you he used to hate on you. For me it was pointy toed pumps. My CBF used to hate it when I wore them and asked me not to wear them when we went out together. After he started cheating he told me he loved pointy toed pumps and I should get a pair.
15. He starts accusing you of cheating on him when you are not together. This is reverse psychology or him trying to sooth his own. He may also start complaining more than usual about the long distance thing. He may encourage you to move to where he is or question where the relationship is going to. Instead of wanting to seriously talk about it though he quickly changes the topic. Again, this justifies in his mind his cheating.
16. You catch him in a series of small nonsensical lies.
17. He seems to have less money to do things with or doesn't want to go out and do things with you. (He is spending his money on dates with the new woman and is either pooped out from all that entertaining or doesn't want to risk being scene in public with you.)
18. Your gut/intuition/6th sense whatever is screaming at you something is just not quite right.
19. Please be reminded that they will lie, lie, and bold fast lie even though you may not have ever known them to be a liar about anything ever before. They will call you paranoid, psycho, jealous, unreasonable and just crazy because they love only you. I hit my CBF with cold hard irrefutable evidence of his cheating and he still lied about it.

Well the answer above is good but coming from a guy id say my friend told me he was cheating and i always went over 2 his house when his gf came over i had 2 hide under the bed or in the closet he truly did oblivious lieing. u should be able 2 tell if hes lieing.

1. When he acts different then usual.

2. When he thinks its all about him and refers to things that only has to do with him.

3. When you ask him a question about what he is doing, then he answers you with another quesstion.

4. When you tell him you love him and he hesitates to answer.

5.You catch an STD from him-disease -

sexually transmitted

6.Lube all over his arse-affair with another man

7.Too many calls from a number registered under a man's name-a trick or

Too many calls from a family member.Go through his mobile for these numbers when he is in the shower.

Answer 4

When you know he is lying to you. If he is going off irregularly or he is not coming home when he is supposed to. If you think that he is actually cheating on you then you are probably right. You should have it out with him and find out what he is up to when he is away.

Answer 5

if he's in the military, it'd be very unlikely that he'd cheat.. if i were you, instead of wasting your time thinking he's cheating when he's not, i'd start praying to God to keep him safe and bring him back home to you.. that's what i would do..

thats true, my boyfriend is in the navy... he cheated once before he left to the navy, but i doubt hes still doing it. when they go through boot camp its like life changing.you become very different and very respectfull of the ones you love. also they have very very strict rules in any branch of the military, its very unlikley they'd be fooling around like that when they have more important things to concentrate on.

Answer 6

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Before everything gets out of control, all you have to do is be honest and ask him if his doing it, so that way you can have a piece of mine. Just ask him.

Answer 7

Some clear signs that your boyfriend is cheating, is when he starts changing; like coming home late, or not telling the truth about minor stuff. When he is getting messages on his phone, or if he deletes incoming and outgoing calls. If you try to reach him and he doesn't answer, or if he goes out but doesn't want you there, or if he is dishonest about where he was and who he was hanging out with. If he loves you, there is no reason not to be truthful.

If you have been together for awhile then just like the first person answered. People are creatures of habit, when they get up, go to bed, what the wear, when they go out, where they go out, when and how often they contact you. If you see changes in this behavior then something is usually up. It doesn't always mean their cheating but it can mean they are losing interest in you. Either way it leads to a split.

Answer 8

you can't really tell if someone is cheating on you or not so if you trust him then should'nt that be good enough??? if you don't trust him.......break up...... xxnataszaxx

Answer 9

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