What do you do if you love your boyfriend but cheated on him three times because it is a long-distance relationship and only told him about one?

Answer 1

Cheating On Your Long Distance Lover:

• 1st of all, harsh TRUTH: you're not IN love with him. You may love him, but your not IN-LOVE with him. Loving someone and being IN love with them are 2 completely different things and people often confuse this feeling in relationships. For example, you love your parents yet you lie to them now and then, you love your sister or brother yet you smack them , tell on them and cuss at them once in a while. you LOVE your boyfriend, yet you CHEAT and LIE to him. So maybe the Long-distance relationship doesn't work for you because you may be a physical-touch-in person Lover. You need physical contact to feel that Passion Its kinda the % senses, some people fall in love with words (most women), or with sight (most men) or with touch (both genders). Get real and do whats best.

• You need to be together because it is unrealistic to meet one another's needs from a distance. Get real with yourself either move to be near him or he moves to be near you. Until that happens the chance that he or you will cheat (again) is pretty high. We are only human. So accept the fact that he may love you and you may love him but without being close to one another you will ultimately cheat, unless you are perfect in mind, body and soul which I doubt. Also don't be bothered by the self-righteous they are always pointing the finger when they have three other fingers pointing right back at them because technically lusting after someone is cheating so don't tear yourself up about this. Another thing, are you engaged...NO. So don't be so hard on yourself but decide if this person is someone you can see yourself building a life with. If so then MOVE to be with him or have him MOVEto be with you then do your best to commit to one another.

• You have a big decision to make here and I think you know it. It's obvious you either need to be close to this person and your options are moving where he is or he moves where you are. If this is not possible STOP CHEATING end the relationship. I will give points to you for telling him about your first slip-up, but you are not only cheating him, you're cheating yourself and I think you know it. How would you feel if he cheated on you? Please make up your mind about this person and quit hurting them. Sounds like you aren't ready to settle down and I don't feel you know what love is. I wouldn't tell him about the other 2 indiscretions. It will only hurt him. You have some thinking to do!

• This is why I have always said a very small percentage of long distance relationships ever work out. People that are in love and are building on a relationship really need to be together physically (just not sex) but touching and talking to each other while looking into each other's eyes. You can't possibly have a relationship by long distance. During WW1 & WW2 some young men that fought in those wars would meet some wonderful young woman and she would promise from the bottom of her heart to write and wait for him. A large majority of those young women were lonely and although they may have written they soon tired of the waiting (no news of when the war would end) and that is where the term "Dear John letters" came from. They would write to tell the poor guy they had met someone else. Many wives during the war years did wait for their husbands to come home, but then again, they had somewhat of a relationship before their men had to go off to war. Be honest with this young man. Let him down as easy as possible by telling him the truth. Tell him you are not suited for a long distance relationship and want to date other guys. Cheating is cheap and under-handed so don't ruin your reputation by doing so. Be true to yourself!

• If you have cheated that many times it seems to me that you are not fir for doing this long distance thing.. im in a long one right now and it hasn't beenthat long and i miss the person like crazy but i know i love them with all my heart and it does mamae sense that one of you move to the other because you cannot have a perminent long distance relationship for say more then 2-3 years and that is with like a month visit each year...if you can get more then a motnh then that is awsome!