What do you do your ex-husband wants his new girlfriend to be part of his old in-laws lifes?

Answer 1

That is totally up to your parents. All you can do is express your feelings to your parents. It depends on the situation. If you get along with your ex-husband and there are no ill feelings, you may be able to understand that he was part of the family and loves your parents. It's hard to give up people you truly care about because of a divorce. If you can accept this way of thinking, you may also be able to understand that just because he has a new girlfriend he shouldn't have to give up his relationship with your parents. If you are uncomfortable when he and his girlfriend are around you parents, you could have 'other plan' and stay away while they visit. If you are comfortable with them being around, by all means, join them. It's always best to face this type of thing head-on and overcome the discomfort, if it's at all possible. Especially if you have children with him...there will be future weddings to share, births of grandchildren...many instances where it would be very helpful to feel comfortable around him and another woman.