What if your son or daughter is a crossdresser?

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i have the exact problem as answer 6 but im to afraid to admit it. i have nothing to wear and its Very depresing. so yeah please let him crossdress it will save alot of depression.

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I think you should talk to him and let him know you are there for him if he has any questions or concerns for his behavior and try and find a psychiatrist so he can find out what and why he is doing so.

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YOU SHOULD NOT BE MAD AT HIM. HE ADMIRES THE FEMALE PERSONA AND WANTS TO HAVE ONE. ALLOW HIM TO EXPERIMENT BUT REMEMBER THAT THIS MAY BE AN EXPERIMENT FOR YOU BUT A LIFE CHOICE FOR HIM. CROSS DRESSING FOR MOST IS NOT A CHOICE BUT A MUST DO. THEY ARE REQUIRED BY THEIR BRAIN TO DRESS AS A FEMALE. MOST LIKELY IF HE IS ASKING FOR A BRA THEN HE IS OF THE AGE WHERE A GIRL HIS AGE WOULD BE WEARING A BRA. YES ALLOW HIM WITHOUT QUESTION TO DRESS COMPLETELY AS A GIRL.

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Your son is experimenting with cross-dressing. In and of itself it does not mean he is homosexual (most transvestites are straight) nor does it mean he is a sexual deviant or dangerous. Many people, including prominent members of the community practice cross-dressing. The best thing for you to do is not freak out, maybe get some literature on this, and be supportive of him. It could be a short lived curiosity, or a precurser to a lifestyle. Either way, don't pay attention to old stories; ie...he's been around girls and lingere too much, he is gay, he needs a psychiatrist, he may be a molester, etc....Let him be and keep an open dialog with him. If you condemn him, he will just hide it. Keep lines open, and you always know whats going on.

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You should sit down with him and have a heart to heart talk. Tell him you love him and accept him for who he is. Then also explain to him that this is something new to you and unusual for you to take in. Explain that he should be able to express himself freely but must think about his family. Now, I would not say that anyone should be ashamed at all, whether it be him, because these are his feelings, or anyone else in the family, because those are there feelings. Now and forever, change of any kind in the human society is not easily accepted of course unless your rich and eccentric or a celebrity. Which is really sad. We as humans should be concerned with the environment, our health and the love that we all should have for one another. You and you son can come to a compromise about this that will let everyone's feelings in the home be involved. If he's old enough to go out and be with other crossdressers, I mean 18 and older, then let him express himself there. If everyone in the house can accept his crossdressing then he can do it in the privacy of his bedroom. He has to understand that this is hard to take in and should be brought on slowly to get accepted. He may feel very natural crossdressing but others in the home don't know that feeling and its hard to understand. There is nothing wrong with your son, he was just born to feel comfortable in womens clothing and lets face it mens clothing isn't made as nice in the common store as womens clothing. Mens clothing doesnt start getting comfortable until its really pricey. Please consider as a parent what type of son he is aside from the crossdressing issue. Does he have a good heart , a healthy conscience , a nice attitude. With all the other issues going on in this world is this one really that detrimental. I cant say that I know how you feel, I don't but my son too likes to do things differently then I or my husband imagined and what we say is, He's a straight A student, a boy scout, a good kid and if he wants to have long hair or wear all black this week, so be it. Besides I remind my son that when he gets older and looks at the picture of himself in his particular flavor of the week or month that he cant say "Oh mom why did you cut my hair that way or make me wear those clothes" because we didnt, he chose to and that's one lesson that now is helping my son make choices that will have future discussions and lord knows we all need to communicate more in this world. Good luck with this and by all means love your son and remember he didnt ask to be brought into this world and is just like a flower that to reach its full potential needs, love, light and food.

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There are two main categories of children who like to crossdress. One group is simply experimenting with the clothes of the opposite gender and may enjoy it from time to time, but don't wish to be female. The other group are transsexuals. who feel trapped in the wrong body and wish to become a member of the opposite sex, like the commenter in caps above. If they are boys, they will insist they are really female--and these feelings tend to emerge early, as early as 3 or 4 years. This latter condition is called "gender identity disorder (GID)" and is actually produced in the brain before birth and is genetic in nature. Brains of transsexuals are in some respects identical to those of the opposite sex. The only way to find out whether the child has GID is to consult a mental health professional, preferably a psychiatrist. If the child is GID, current practice suggests beginning hormone therapy at an early age. GID which remains untreated often leads to deep depression in the individual and sometimes to suicide.

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Encourage him! I only wish my mom had done the same. I'm 15 now and I love to cross dress but am afraid of the consequences of telling my parents. Hormones are good if (s)he really wants to be a woman (only use this after a few years) but just get him(her) his(her) own clothes to wear - frilly Bras, lacy panties, swimwear, stockings, tights, heels, makeup, girlie tops and jeans etcetcetc. Just make the most of the situation but make sure this is what (s)he wants to do. (Or just leave him alone and pretend that you didnt saw anything, because its very embarrassing)

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Talk to your son and if he likes to cross-dress wearing bras and pantyhose then take him out shopping for a bra that he can wear. Also buy him a pair of pantyhose that fit. It could also be a phase he's going through.

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Help him be a better girl. Show him how to become a her and dress age appropriate. This will never stop nor his desire to cross dress stop-in fact it will become stronger with age until he pops. If he is young think about hormones to lessen his male appearance-that does not mean he will have a sex change; but will help him appear to be more female as he matures. Get his ears pierced and support all efforts to look female now. I assume your a mom so have a mother daughter day once a month when you both go and get nails done and make overs at the salon.

Love him. Talk to him, listen to him. If you or your husband have a problem with it, everyone needs to get to a therapist used to dealing with gender issues. DO NOT take him to have him cured, unless you want to see him run away or end up a suicide. He cannot change this about him. In most cases, he can learn to not dress (when in your house) but that won't change the want to dress. He's not a sissy, most of the time not gay, and also in most cases, doesn't want to be a woman: he just likes the feeling of women's clothes or the idea of looking pretty; the same feeling most women have.

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First off talk to him, find out what and why he does this - if it's because he thinks he wants to be a girl or is sure that "a mistake was made" then get Son, Mom and Dad to a therapist specializing in gender issues. If he's doing it to feel good (masturbate to) just make sure he keeps it to himself and doesn't involve other family members. If he tells you that sometimes he wants to act like a girl and other times a boy, then enjoy, you have a 2 for 1 special and you have a wonderful child who will be sensitive and kind and generous (as you reward those behaviors) and you have a burly boy who is willing to protect the weak and repair "cars/boats,trucks"/be a carpenter/be a welder/a ...

The heart of the whole thing is love: love requires patience, is kind, caring, gentle, never hurts another on purpose and finds a way for everyone to live together in harmony.

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it's not a big deal, just because your son likes wearing ladies clothes doesn't mean he's transgendered or gay or that there is anything sexual about it, even if he was gay or trans that's not a big deal, try talking to him about it in an open way be clear that you don't judge him, if he isn't willing to talk don't push it.

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Support your child. I, personally, do not care about these things, I actually see it as a good thing that people are given the option to do so. The whole freedom thing working, but my suggestion and plea to you is for you to support your child. There is a CHANCE that this is just a phase, or this may just be how they feel comfortable. Needless to say, they will face resistance, as much as we talk about freedom and expression, the world is still overpopulated with closed-minded people who will love nothing more than to belittle them. And I believe, that you, as a parent, and family member, should stay by their side and let them know that they don't have to face the world alone for their way of expressing who they are, I think that it's important to let them know that you will always be besides them supporting them.