What risk mitigating actions can a 45 year old woman with kids in elementary school take before marrying a man who's 65?

Answer 1

• It is important that the relationship between a 45 year old woman with children who intends on marrying a 65 year old man that the children are introduced slowly to get to know him. It is also a good idea to take the relationship slow by the 45 year old woman to be sure this is the right man and if any red flags come up such as impatience with your children; yourself; bursts of anger; drinking too much or is controlling then these are considered red flags. Also 65 is getting up there in age and with your children in elementary school there is a risk that this man may become ill or even pass away and that is a risk you will have to consider because this does not just affect you, but your children. Children often do not want another man to be a father to them so it's important that the 45 and 65 do quality things with the children to ease them into this new relationship. Also talking to the 65 year old man (having good communication skills) as to how you want your children treated such as discipline is a must and also the children can refer to him by his first name or uncle and not necessarily call him their dad or father. Often children will eventually trust and come to love the new man in the family if he is a good man and could quite possibly consider them their father. Ask family and friends what they think of this man and if there is more than one doubt then put off the wedding and reconsider getting married. Many women are either stressed; frightened or lonely and may rush into a marriage.