What should you do if your wife cheated and fell in love with her lesbian friend and says she wants to separate from you until she can get over her friend?

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I'm very sorry to hear about this and the only comfort I can give you is this can happen more than you think. It appears that your wife may find what she needs from another woman, or the other woman has talked her into thinking she has Lesbian tendencies. This isn't hard, because unlike men, women will seek out other women (close friends) to discuss their feelings often openly and extremely honestly. This in turn can lead to a bond and safe comfort from that Lesbian person and is confusing to your wife or, your wife has always been Lesbian and is just now discovering it (it happens.) I can only suggest that you either find this not suitable for yourself and too heart-breaking, divorce and move on or you will give her the space to figure out who she is and where she is going. This is a long road for you, so to hurry up the process I would ask her for a legal separation so you are free to go about your life as you wish and perhaps, in time, you will meet someone more suited to you. The other side of the coin is your wife would certainly know she could lose you forever and come to her senses if she is not a true Lesbian. Good luck Marcy I am sorry but in my opinion she is trying to let you down easy. She doesn't want to be with you but doesn't want to hurt you by directly telling you that. Good luck