What sites answers questions on transference where a person sees in a partner the suppressed memories of a mentally abusive deceased father transferring that hatred on to the partner?

Answer 1

Sites won't help you on this one. If the person transferring their hatred onto the partner refuses to go for therapy, then the partner that is the victim needs to seek therapy to understand how to handle this problem. You don't have to have a mental issue to seek logical advice from a professional. When my mother had Dementia and refused to speak to me (I was her caregiver for years) I went to a psychologist to get his opinion on whether I was handling things the right way. After all it was my mother and now she was simply a shadow of her former self. Dementia or not, I certainly didn't want to hurt my mother. The psychologist thought I was doing a pretty good job of handling things, but gave me additional tools to help me.