What to do when your dad's wife is mean?

Answer 1

first of all you have to do probably the hardest part: realise that she's going through a tough time (as you are) because she doesn't know whether to be a mother figure to you or blahblahblahblah, so there's the possibility everything will calm down in time.

ok now that's out the way, you should always be able to feel safe and confident knowing that you can tell your dad anything, this isn't the case with all families but this is a time when you and your dad need constant contact with each other.

the way I've dealt with this situation in the past (with my dad's new girlfriend) was to get him alone and tell him that his new girlfriend is really horrible to me, even though I'm sure she was nice to my dad, she was horrible to me (I'm pretty sure she didn't want a child in the way of the relationship she had with my dad).

it's very likely that you are the most important thing in the world to your dad, I'm not saying he'll get rid of her, but it's very likely he'll do whatever he can to sort it out

good luck x