What your girlfriend won't tell you?

Answer 1

It depends on what he has to hide; each individual guy is different and has been through different life experiences.

While there are things a boyfriend in a serious relationship should tell, (e.g. whether he's been married, if he has kids, if he wants to be exclusive with you, etc.) there are some things a guy (or anyone for that matter) might not tell you for different reasons.

If he's cheating, he most likely won't tell you if he feels he's doing nothing wrong, or thinks the rewards outweigh the punishment and wants to keep it going.

If he's had some horrible trauma in his life before he met you, he might not share that because of the feeling of reliving it and it hurting too much.

If he's been in a job that may require him to kill someone or see someone die (e.g. soldier, cop, firefighter, etc.), he may not share that because of other memories it brings and again, it hurting too much to share.

If there's something about you he doesn't necessarily care for, he may not tell that because he feels your positive traits outweigh it and it's not worth hurting your feelings and/or putting a rift in the relationship.

There are many things a boyfriend might not tell you, and it's not always because they mean to be deceptive or mysterious, but because as human being, sometimes we all feel some things are better left unsaid.

Answer 2

1.Girls like kissing.snugging and hugging but they wont tell you that there shy of it they

2. We worry that other girls look better now that you are in a relationship.

Mike nailed the core of every girlfriend's relationship insecurity on the head when he brought up the GIGS (Grass Is Greener Syndrome). The idea that life is better on the other side is one of the most destructive forces in relationship world and girls feel that guys fall for it way too often. It is a great fear of ours that once you can't have other girls you will suddenly want them all. It leads to a lot of unfounded jealousy brought on by innocent comments on your part or casual non-flirtatious conversations with other girls. So what's a guy to do? In a perfect world you'd stop interacting with other girls altogether but our rational super-ego knows that's not realistic. What you need to do is follow these three simple rules; 1) never pay more attention to another girl than you do to your girlfriend, 2) never comment over and over how hot/cool/nice/fun another girl is, and 3) if you meet a great girl while you're in a relationship hook her up with one of your buddies (also known as taking her off the market and getting her out of our face). And should you ever really get the itch to jump the fence and live life on the other side... just do it! Don't lead us on, don't cheat on us, don't sneak around, just end the relationship. If it ends up being a GIGS fueled mistake… oh well, consider it a hard lesson learned and leave us alone... we won't want you back anyway!

3. When we say we're "OK" or that things are "fine" the opposite is probably true.

Girls are communicators. It is hardwired in to our psyches to talk and talk and talk some more whenever there is discord or conflict. So if you sense there's a problem and gather the courage to ask us and we respond with a "fine" or "it's ok" or some other sentence with less than 7 (short) words chances are good that we really want to talk. So, you think, what's a guy to do? You ask a question, you get an answer, and you plan based on that answer. Who wants to read between the lines or guess what is really going on? What a waste of time, right? Wrong! When girls pull the short answers out during a conversation it is because we want you to put the effort in to getting us to open up. It comes from a place of feeling like you don't usually care what we have to say so we want you to put some effort in to getting us to talk so we can be sure we will be listened to. Now those perceptive guys among you may have your hands up right now waiting to ask the obvious question… if a girl feels like she's not usually heard isn't that the REAL problem? Yes, yes it is, and one little talk won't stop that feeling of being marginalized. In psychology we call this a learned response, a behavior that does not come naturally but rather has been developed through a process called social conditioning. You may very well be the most attentive boyfriend since the dawn of time but if her previous guys made her feel insignificant or unheard you'll have to help her carry that baggage. Heck, you'll have to help her unpack it and put it away! So when your girl replies with a curt little answer to your questions don't take her at face value. Calmly and gently ask her a few more times. Once she feels like you will hear her nature will take over and, voila! You'll be communicating.