You should seek counseling because you have been brain-washed by this manipulative person. You did nothing wrong, but be yourself and I have no doubt you are kind, loving and giving and these are the targets that abusers of all sorts go for (more control.) Simply because you are kind and loving (don't change who you are) does not mean there is anything wrong with you and you need a counselor to help you put it into perspective. The person with the problem is the narcissist!!! As humans we are generally taught to work at our relationships and most often than not most relationships have their bumpy roads so it's difficult to tell when you should stick it out or bail out. You did your best and you should be proud of yourself! Good luck hon I can relate to this feeling and it doesn't feel good. I felt a lot of embarrassment. As I grew bolder and shared the private details with those closest to me, I was embarrassed I hadn't left sooner - even though it was only one year before I left - still it was one year too long. Just sharing 'one' of the incidences with my father had him saying, "AND YOU continued with this guy!?!". But I was engaged - ring on finger, wedding planning, dreaming, etc.. In the end, that didn't matter. I left anyway. The double-tragedy is the victim winds up feeling the shame, when it is really the N that should. The only way out of this, for me, was to have compassion on myself. Also, to leave. My self-respect grew enormously when I left. This helped to "redeem" the negative feelings I had toward myself due to finding myself in that situation in the first place. There is 'no' humiliation in loving and believing in another. Those are two of the best gifts you can give - beautiful, precious and worthy of being taken care of. The fact that someone did not know how to cherish you, and your love and belief is 'not' about you - not a reflection on 'you'. Even the best-of-the-best are caught in the same trap you found yourself in. It 'is' a reflection on them - who they are, and their ability (or lack thereof) to love. Being manipulated only means you believed someone was as honest and loving as you. You thought there was sincerity there. That kind of innocence and purity is a beautiful gift. Hold onto it. Hold onto you. Extend yourself the same compassion you would extend to another - and allow yourself to THRIVE. Many blessings, AlwaysLearning
no. a sadist would want to hurt you. a narcissist would want to be hurt.
Mine did. I dumped him and he blocked me from everything because I was so angry and called him names and wouldn't get over my anger. He said I hurt him because I called him a "coward", "a narcissist", "a jerk", "stupid", etc. so he blocked me completely.
Yes. Otherwise they'll get deeper and deeper into it. At lease they have a fighting chance if you tell them.
Probably not, they would fight over mirror time. ;)
No, they could care less what they do to you. They don't have empathy! They could care less what they do to you or how they hurt you.
You should ignore them back and be thankful you are not in their circle of victims. Get on with your life and don't fret over not getting attention from a narcissist.
Yes, sometimes a narcissist will contact their ex after a break up because the narcissist cannot imagine their ex with anyone else as the narcissist has a complex of being the greatest at everything including relationships and is ego maniacal.
he will do something rash that might hurt himself
To a narcissist, losing control is simply not an option. He'll take a hit but you can bet that he'll plan his next move carefully.
Nothing
Yes, especially when no one is looking. Narcissist love hurting others.
that would be my guess if they where such a jerk in the first place.If they where that rude and unfeeling it's probably for the best your split up.