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When does a narcissistic woman idealize one and then devalues one is it after getting supply or what and why do they idealize and devalue?
Narcissists live in a world where if people admire them/agree with them/give time to them they are good, or if (sometimes the same) people fail to admire/agree/give time etc. they are bad . Everything depends on whether you are supplying what they need at the time. It can turn very quickly. Some people may be idealised for years (like a favorite child) whilst another child in the family can do nothing right. Essentially if you flatter them they will flatter you back. Sometimes to an embarrassing degree. They turn angry if you seem to not be paying them sufficient homage. I know this sounds sarcastic, but I think it is accurate. My mother has NPD and though I am not a narcissist, I think I have modelled some aspects of her temper when I feel I am being taken for granted or exploited, as I was by her in my youth. Sudden explosive outbursts are the sign you have gone from being idealised to being devalued. You are never in any doubt when this happens, as you will be shocked by the force of rage you experience. My understanding is that narcissists really can't help all this, they are so threatened by any whiff of criticism real or imagined that their world is rocked to an extent that most people can't comprehend. My advice, for what it's worth, is steer clear of anyone suffering from this syndrome - in fact it is often true to say that their family/spouse/'friends' etc. actually do the suffering - they are not capable of deep loving feelings, especially paradoxically, towards themselves.
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Does a narcissistic mother take pleasure in her children not getting along?
Some do. It depends on how she has the family roles set up and where she's getting her narcissistic supply from.
Is it at all possible to be a narcissistic sociopath while suffering from Munchhausen's?
Yes, it is. Many sociopaths are narcissistic by nature (i.e. caring about themselves to an extreme). Munchausen's syndrome is related to narcissism, as it is focused on attention-getting. Most sociopaths do not have Munchausen's, but most people with Munchausen's are probably sociopaths (or at least narcissists).
How do you get out of a relationship with a man who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder when he has humiliating incriminating video and pictures of you which he would use to harm you if you left?
Try and retrieve the incriminating video and pictures before getting out of the relationship. If that is out of the question then you are S.O.L.
What happens mentally to a person who has been in a narcissistic relationship?
It depends what Kind of person you are. If you know what you are getting yourself into and you aways remind yourself never to take it personal it can benefit you. But if your clueless and your in the relationhip going crazy without a rational explanation it can ruin you. Make your relationships in the future mess up.
Does getting a court ordered psych evaluation for a narcissistic family member help at all or does it just make things worse?
I do not think it would help,narcissists are well known as manipulating even psychologists and doctors...they can act better than AL pacino and Robert de Niro together....
What are the chances of a narcissistic person getting better if they make an effort to get help?
I asked my therapist about this, and she said it's so rare for them to admit they need help, it is doubtful, although anything is possible. If everyone left them, and they were all alone and had no one shelling out Narcissistic Supply for them, it's a rare possibillity. In my ex-N's case, it is very doubtful because he's such an attractive man and has such a following of women and Narcissist supply, it's hard to imagine him being all alone. He'd just shun the one who labeled him a narcissist and run to get his adoration elsewhere.
Can a person be emotionally unstable and be narcissistic?
Absolutely. Yes yes yes! One of the many horrible traits of narcissism is being emotionally unstable. The narcissist I knew very well would have horrible fits and tantrums over little things that a normal person who is emotionally stable could deal with. Narcissists are emotionally and mentally immature. I would always ask the N I hung out with when he did something stupid (which was a lot) how old are you 10? He freaked out over everything. Esp. if he didn't get his way. Not getting their way or getting what they want when they want it is usually what sets a narcissist off in the first place. So yes an emotionally unstable person could absolutely be a narcissist.
Is it better for a narcissist to have a narcissist partner?
They need someone who is as focused on them as they are on themselves. So they'd be better off with someone with really low self esteem, or just someone who is a real giver, and wouldn't mind never getting anything in return.
How will your ex narcissistic partner affect your family now?
They won't affect it at all if you cut them out and dont' look back. NO CONTACT. They are predatory people who suck their victims dry. Cut them loose and never look back. They will most likely stalk you or be vindictive ( depending on the kind of narcissist they are) and try to GET EVEN...... The others? THey will disappear when they realize they aren't getting any attention.
Could someone sell your phone number to telephone marketers out of spite as since a break up with a cruel narcissistic man I have been inundated with strange telephone calls?
Since getting rid of this guy all of a sudden I have been getting an onslaught of various marketing calls, silent calls and wrong numbers! I suspect he previously tracked my mobile phone and feel like I am going crazy! My friends all say it is too much of a coincidence NOT to be him but I don't know how it is happening and can't prove it is him.
How do you get over the pain and guilt for getting so angry at your narcissistic ex who now wants nothing more to do with you. I'm so hurt can you please help?
just remember that they are incapable of really caring for you, at all. once you realize any guilt or regret you feel for "ruining" the relationship is a dead end, and that even if you had been perfect the relationship would still turn out horrible, it gets a lot easier.
Can a lawyer date marry or have a child with a convicted felon without losing their job or getting introuble?
Maybe, but if he was a client that would be ethnically wrong and one thing you need to remember he is a con. Once a con always a con. They can be quite charming, but they are often social paths and narcissistic. Some are also psychopaths. Yes, you most likely will loose your job especially if you are with a DA's office. I suggest you forget this person.
