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I spoke on this with a Rabbi once, and he presented some interesting insights.

First off, for those in their younger years, love is not an emotion as much as it's a desire.

The human brain does not yet have the conceptual ability to understand and truly feel love until well into the 20s. Prior to that time, what you are feeling is the desires, wants, and needs of a youth. It's the same desires that drove that overwhelming need to have that latest toy. Then later, the new boy or girl, your first driver's license, and your first car.

The difference is, as an adolescent, hormonal changes get thrown into the mix. Also added in is that magical date on the calendar when you become a LEGAL adult. But, you're not yet a physical or emotional adult, and as such, what a teen feels is desire, and lust, but not love.

Even an adult cannot feel this, for love is not instantaneous.

It's a seed that grows over time, when two people commit to each other the goal of becoming one person. A type of symbiotic relationship. From him the woman draws strength and logic. From her, the man draws emotion and compassion. This is not something that happens overnight, or even in a few months. It can take years, provided the right beginnings are met.

There is clear statistical evidence that the couples who live together, and/or get married prior to age 24 make up 85% of all breakups and divorces. This is the point when a female reaches full maturity and is ready ti truly understand what love is. In actuality, she will be more in love with her children, before she is truly in love with their father. The woman is the anchor to the ship that is man.

The symbiotic relationship even extends beyond the emotional needs. The exchange of bodily fluids during intercourse delivers chemicals that both the male and female body needs. In males, it affects their immune system. In females, it affects the strength of the uterus, improving the ability to carry a baby. Found that one out just the other day on the Discovery Health Channel. As such, man and woman are meant to be together. But, not multiple men and women, as their bodies are adapting to each other. Multiple partners disrupts this in that the genetic makeup of the chemicals contained within semen and vaginal fluids are specific to the individual. Multiple partners has the body trying to adapt to every new contribution.

All this together is what LOVE is. It's when your heart and your spouse's heart is one. It's when your bodies have adapted to become one. It's when you can stand as one against all challengers. THAT IS LOVE!

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