Why a husband will not talk to you but he will talk to his mistress?

Answer 1

• They say that marriage; parenthood and getting older is not for sissies. Each one of these times in one's life can be difficult at best and that is why good communication skills are very important in a marriage. People get married; work hard; raise their children; some hold down careers and work long hours or travel a lot so the communication skills often are very low; financial worries and many other reasons can cause a married couple to pass each other in their own home like two ships in the night. It is generally up to the woman to make sure at least one half hour is reserved per evening to kickback and sit down with her husband and get him use to talking. Ask him how his day went and if there are problems then both of you can put your heads together to come up with an amicable solution and then you tell him how your day went. It takes practice, but it's the best thing you can ever do whether you are in a relationship and dating; engaged or married. When good communication skills never enter the marriage then the husband and wife can withdraw inward and each may think the other doesn't care what is happening in their lives. Thus, the husband in this case will seek out someone who will listen. Men in general do not open up and speak often about their problems, but women are more outgoing with their feelings and that is why men generally are attracted to women when they want someone to listen to them. You husband talks to his mistress more than you because she listens to him, but the sad part of it all is 'the grass is not always as green on the other side of the fence' meaning that the mistress is new in his life; she'll listen to anything he has to say and unlike you having to live with him for years she too will eventually get tired of listening to his problems or other issues he may want to talk about and may end up refusing to see him. You will have to make a decision quickly to sit down with your husband and tell him you are not willing to share him with his mistress and that he either agrees to seek marriage counseling with you (if you cannot afford this then tell him that you both need to practice your communication skills together and be more a part of each others lives) or you will file for divorce.