Why can't you leave your ex-boyfriend alone?

Answer 1

WHERE DO I START WE WERE YOUNG ABOUT 12 OR SO WHEN I FIRST MET HIM OUR MOTHERS WERE FRIENDS SO WE KNOW A LOT ABOUT ONE ANOTHER...THEN WE GROW UP WENT OUR SEPARATE WAYS BY THAT TIME I WAS WITH MY FURTER HUSBAND HE WAS IN A DOWNFALL RELATIONSHIP MY BOYFRIEND WENT OFF TO JAIL BECAUSE HE WAS STALKING ME AT THE TIME WE WERE SEPARATED FOR A YEAR AND 6MO MY PLAY BROTHER AT THE TIME CAME OVER JUST AS A FRIEND THEN THERE WAS CHALLENGE BETWEEN THE BOTH OF US THAT WAS SET IN MOTION FOR THE NEXT 3 YEARS. MY PLAY BROTHER AND I NEVER WANTED A ONE ON ONE THING AND FOR ME THAT WAS FINE I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR 5 YEARS BEFORE THE STALKING BEGIN WITH NOW HUSBAND OF 3 YEARS.LESS SKIP TO PRESENT TIME MY EX-LOVER OTHER WISE KNOWN AS MY PLAY BROTHER JUST GOT MARRIED TO A CHICK THAT HE'S BEEN WITH FOR 3 YEARS NOW ONLY BECAUSE SHE CAME UP PREGNANT. HE HAS ALWAYS SAID TO ME THE WOMAN WHO BARES HIM A CHILD WOULD BE THE ONE HE WOULD MARRIED AND HE DID UNHAPPY. I NEED HLP YOU SEE BECAUSE HE NOW CALLS ME ALL THE TIME EVEN IN FRONT OF HER ASKING FOR AN AFFAIR WITH ME I'V TOLD HIM I DON'T WANT TO GO THERE WITH HIM FOR THE SAKE OF HIS UNBORN BECAUSE I DON'T WANT THEM TO BREAK UP OVER ME...BUT EVERYTIME I GO OVER TO SEE HIS MOM WHOM I CLOSE WITH SINCE MY MOTHER'S DEATH HE SHOWS UP BRINGING ME THINGS ASKING IF MY MARRIGE IS ON THE ROCKS AND TO BE HONEST IT'S NEVER BEEN GOOD BUT WE SEEM TO LIVE WITH IT.SO MY EX LOVER WANTS AND BEGS ME FOR AN AFFAIR HE HAS EVEN TOLD ME WHEN WE WERE TOGETHER I WAS HIS DREAM AND KNOW ONE CAN TOP US WHEN WE WERE TOGTHER HE HAS TOLD ME HE LOVES ME AND IS INLOVE WITH ME I ON THE OTHER HAD HAVE NEVER TOLD HIM I LOVE HIM AND IT DRIVES HIM CRAZY. EVERYTIME I SEE HIM HIM IT DRIVES ME CRAZY I KNOW THERE IS A CONNECTION BUT I'M MARRIED HE'S MARRIED AND HAVE A BABY ON THE WAY.WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Answer 2

Because he's interested in remaining a part of her life. (This does not include communication between two people about their children. That should be expected and not intruded upon.) It may help to better explain how he's not leaving his ex-wife alone--are they mutually contacting eachother, or is he harassing her?

Answer 3

I initially broke up with him due to long distance and the accompanying neglect I was feeling. The decision to break up was the hardest thing I've done, but I felt I was doing both him and myself the favor of saving us from future pain. Unfortunately, I overestimated myself. I have had many instances of weakness. When he came to visit and we exchanged our belongings, I slept with him, then told him it was a mistake. Here are the weak moments that I've had: I asked that we get back together a month later, he said no because we were long distance and if we dragged this out, we would end up "hating each other". (He couldn't even tell me no, I had to say it for him.) I didn't talked to him for a while until I tried to become "friends" (another option that I'm seeing as unrealistic and impossible for me until I don't care anymore). I was honestly starting to get over him, until I got jealous and took a huge step backwards and called him up to tell him that I missed him and didn't want to seeing anyone else, not that I was entitled to say such things...He told me that the distance was the issue because he couldn't see me when he wanted to. He told me that he wanted to "leave it at that for now" and talk about it later. The next day was winter break so I told him we should meet up when we both returned to college, and he agreed. During break, he contacted me and we had good conversations. But he suddenly stopped when he went back to school. I texted him last week asking to meet up. He told me that'd be good. I told him to get back to me later after drinking with his buddies. He texted me later that he'd call me the next day because he was pretty drunk, but didn't. When I texted him again the next day, he called and we talked about meeting up. Even though it's clear that it's over, that he has moved on and I no longer mean anything to him (as our interactions obviously demonstrate), I can't stop myself from contacting him and wanting to see him. I wish he would just tell me to leave him alone. Can't he see that I'm hurting and I can't let him go? He is always trying to be the nice guy, but I wish that in this case, he'd be an a$$hole instead. I realize that I must NOT meet up with him. I hope I have the willpower to do so.

Answer 4

Remove all of his addresses from your phone and any websites. Then, you live your life. When you get the urge to contact him, take a walk, shower, call another friend--anything but that. Eventually, thoughts of him will go away.

Answer

ignore him, avoid him, don't talk to him

well yew don't talk to them or stay away 4rm dem...simple as that!UNLESS!yewr obsessed over him...then idk...pray to god 4 everything to be ok.that's wht i would do!

Answer 5

Because he's crazy and you should probably call the cops , no seriously. Get help.