Why do grown children not care about their parents?

Answer 1

Why some older parents avoid their adult children:

• Some parents may feel that they have parroted throughout the years raising their children with 'dos' and 'don't;s; and therefore now that their children are adults they are staying out of their lives and waiting for their adult children to let them into their lives.
• Some parents may be very ill and do not wish to let their children know just how ill they are.
• Some parents live a long distance away from their children and either financially or health-wise they cannot make the trip to visit them so it is up to the adult children to visit them. Phone calls can be exchanged.
• Divorce (quite common) after the children have left home may cause each parent to search out a future for themselves because they may be lonely and often consider their children have their life and the parent or parents need to find theirs. This does not mean the parents still do not love their adult children.
• Some parents have careers; may travel a lot or work over-time and are not aware how they are neglecting their adult children (out of sight, out of mind.)
• If the parents are anywhere from 60 years of age or older they could be suffering from Dementia or Alzheimer's disease and if it is the start of the disease they do not want their children seeing them forget where they put this or that or not recognizing some of their own family.
• Lastly (but not that common) there are parents who are happy to have their adult children out of their lives and do not want to keep in touch with them.

If a child grew up in a fairly loving family (even if the parents were strict) then they should automatically know they were loved and still are. Wise adult children try to keep in touch with their parents and most parents want to enjoy their grandchildren and get together as a family unity. Do not treat absent parents as unloving, but make the effort to keep them in your lives if they have always been loving and supportive of you. Remember that they raised their children and the chain of life is that the adult children generally look after their parents when they are older and are ill.

Answer 2

patfrederesit is not ignoring i do not know how elderly you are spesaking og but parents on the whole love their children at all ages and hope their children remember things the taught them when then were young so it is not parenys who are ignoring but rtheir vhildren eho are i live ub a nursing home the is a daughter here who comes daily and helps feed her elderly father. i asked her one day you come here almost daily anfd take good care od both your parents without hesitation h said they were very good to me when iwas growing up. i thought about that rely and thought about my son and daughter who even loving in another sate i am still part ogf their lives by phone calls e mails and just remembering the old days this is what keeps elderly young and happy remembering how good they are to them even if they have alzheimers disease they do bot forget it is the children who sometimes forget them but feel guilty doing thids as rthey are narried with famlies of their own but know they do not ignore purposly just not the same in energy or memory anymoreyoumay be thinking how you were treated when you were younger. rember those that hold a grudgemissout on the good times the grudge is held againsrl hope this answers your question pay F

Answer 3

It's not that they don't care it's just that they are busy doing their own thing