Why do intimate relationships bring up repressed feelings of a person childhood lose?

Answer 1

You begin learning to build relationships from birth. They say that subconsciously, a woman looks for a man that's just like her father and a man looks for a woman that is just like his mother. This is because when you are young, you begin learning the difference between men and women and their roles in a relationship. For a woman, she learns what a man's role is by watching how her father takes care of her mother, and also how he takes care of her. So if the father is around and he is a strong man who really takes care of his family, she learns that a man is supposed to be strong, he is supposed to be the 'solid rock' upon which all other family members lean, he is supposed to be the dominant one and the one who gets things done. At the same time, she learns from her mother, how to nurture, how to love, how to be gentle (kissing boo-boo's), how to be soothing, and how to depend on her man. In cases where the father is absent or abusive, she learns that abuse is normal or somewhat acceptable and as a woman, she is possibly suposed to endure those types of situations. So naturally, since our childhood is the foundation upon which our understanding of relationships will build, the two are forever intertwined. Anything that happens in your youth, can most likely affect you as an adult. I hope that answers your question.