Why do people with borderline personality disorder often become obsessed with people whom they have just met?

What happens if you isolate a Borderline Personality Disorder victim from people?

Answer: From my experience, when people with Borderline Personality Disorder are isolated or in their eyes "abandoned" from people, they freak out. It may have something to due with their early childhood, but most BPD's cannot stand to be separated from people for more than a few minutes even. It is extremely stressful for them. It causes them to panic and they usually find some way to get someones attention or company. They may get impulsive and start to self-harm or become suicidal to avoid this abandonment. I wouldn't suggest doing this ever, unless strictly told to do so from the guidance of a psychologist.

What childhood experiences can cause borderline personality disorder?

Sexual abuse most often, also physical abuse, then emotional neglect, verbal abuse...sometimes the physical abuse can cause more direct brain damage that changes one's personality - aka when a car accident causes someone to become a more angry, out of control person.

Why do people who have an eating disorder often become employed where food is central?

They are often obsessed with food even though they aren't eating it

Would mistrust be a mental disorder or a personality disorder?

Mistrust is a feature of both certain psychotic disorders, for example, paranoid schizophrenia, and some personality disorders, for example, paranoid personality disorder, schizotypal personality disorder, and schizoid personality disorder. In some cases the symptoms of those who suffer the above named personality disorders can become so severe that they can suffer brief reactive psychosis, particularly paranoid personality disorder. These people are very wary of others, to the point that they become isolated for fear that others want to harm them in some way. Personality disorders do not respond to psychiatric medications as readily as psychotic disorders do, and in many cases, particularly in paranoid personalty disorder, if the sufferer is in therapy it takes months or years for them to really begin to build trust in a therapist, and they are constantly analyzing everything the therapist says or does, looking for any reason not to trust the therapist anymore.

When do personality traits become a disorders?

1/ Typically personality traits are only graduated to a disorder when they are inflexible or maladaptive; to the point that it creates significant chaos and disruption in the life of those who are exhibiting the traits. Problems in society, such as work or interpersonal relations, when caused as a direct result of personality traits are considered as disorder. Sad but true. If you are getting along well for the most part with your personality traits then it is not considered disorder. For the most part we as a society exhibit similar traits, but to varying degrees. When the degree is too little or extreme this is a sign of disorder .2/ May I try to explain the difference between Personality Disorders and Personality traits. Personality disorders are according to mental health professionals diagnosis criteria, problems a few men or women may have in their personality which get them into trouble in their lives. These are characterised by that person's "failure to learn from experience or adapt appropriately to changes". As a result people having one or more Personality Disorders usually experience personal distress, serious impairment of social functioning and difficulties in employment, usually leading to them being failures in their working life and/or committing criminal offences sometimes leading to prison and problems in making friends and in their relationships with others.There are three clinical groups of personality disorders that people may suffer from, although most people with personality disorders tend to have two or more of them within their overall personality and character. The groups involve :a/ Extremely weird behaviour - including a Paranoid Personality Disorder, a Schizoid Personality Disorder, a Schizotypal Personality Disorder, and a Self- Defeating or Masochist Personality Disorder.b/ Extremely dramatic/emotional behaviour - including Histrionic Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Antisocial Personality Disorder.c/ Behaviour dominated by anxiety and/or fear - including Dependent Personality Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder and Passive Aggressive Personality Disorder.Regarding Personality Traits, we all have them, whereas only about 2% of us also suffer from personality disorder(s). Personality Traits are a normal part of being a human being whether you are male or female. Assessment of any normal individual's personality involves assessing the degree he or she has or does not have of each of what are termed "the Big Five Personality Factor Models". These are:-1. Openness to experience.2. Conscientiousness.3. Extroversion.4. Agreeableness5. Emotional stability or Neurosis

Compare borderline personality disorder and dissociative personality disoreder?

Borderline personality disorder is a person with sudden mood swings, self distructive behavior and very manipulative. Dependent personality disorder is to be fully dependent on a person and to literally focus your life around that person. People with borderline personality disorder (bpd) fear separation as much as people with dependent personality disorder. However, the bpd individual has more "unstable patterns of social relationships". They go from feelings of extreme love and admiration towards loved ones, (which is considered idealization), to the opposite extreme of intense anger and dislike, (termed devaluation). Specifically, one minute, those with bpd are able to form an intense attachment to someone. The next minute, when something happens like a separation the bpd individual believes the other person doesn't care, and loses trust. Responding by rejecting before being rejected, yet still not wanting to be alone. In short, those with a dependent personality disorder could not even fathom the thought of losing someone. Rejection for them is not an option. In fact, these people are known to do whatever it takes to keep whoever they are depended on in their lives, even if it hurts them to do so. Both personality disorders are more common in women than men.

Is insecurity common in borderline personality disorder?

Yes,Pathological Jealousy, sometimes called delusional jealousy, is when a person holds a belief, which is wrong, that a partner (e.g. huband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend) is being unfaithful to them.The person usually goes to great lengths to find evidence that this is the case, and will often draw mistaken conclusions from events, or objects that they think are evidence, even when they are obviously not.It is classed under a group of Disorders known as the Delusional Paranoid Disorders.Answer:Yes, it is very common.People with Borderline Personality Disorder are the most sensitive when it comes to their "caregivers" or the people who are the most important to them in life. They get jealous very easily, especially if they have to be separated by this person due to someone that is insignificant to them, they find this very frustrating, and may become impulsive and dangerous to try and avoid this real or imaged abandonement.But basically if you are a major part of the borderline's life, they will always be jealous of anyone else you encounter, even from day to day. They usually expect you to be perfect, and only focus on them, which is impossible. So, they feel that you are wronging them and get very hostile.It is important for these people to go to therapy and even take medications. Borderline Personality Disorder usually doesnt just go away or subside, because most of these people develop this disorder from a painful or difficult childhood.

Can you become obsessed with sex?

Yes, many people is obsessed with sex

Why is an abuser mad at you years after you dumped him?

Abuse is about control over another person. If he isn't able to control you and feels that he should have the right to do so he will be angry and attempt to intimidate you into having control over you any way he can. Many abusers feel that they are in total control of the relationship and the other person. Their partner or spouse is there to provide for the emotional and sexual needs of the abuser. The abuser uses the partner/spouse as a source of supply and control. The abuser believes he (or she) is entitled to do the abusing, the cheating or the dumping, not the other person. When the partner/spouse leaves the abuser, the abuser is angered at the loss of control. They become more of a scapegoat for the abuser's anger and resentment. There's nothing you can do about it but to avoid the abuser totally or as much as you possibly can. Stalkers and the Borderline Personality The Borderline Personality In recent years psychologists have learned about and done case studies on a new personality disorder which the DSM-III-R classifies as an Axis II disorder- the Borderline Personality . This classification includes such personality disorders as the Anti-social Personality, the Histrionic Personality and the Narcissistic Personality. Several psychologists (including myself) diagonosed my stalker as afflicted with the Borderline Personality. Characteristic of the Borderline (derived from research done by Kreisman & Straus, 1989) are: a shaky sense of identity sudden, violent outbursts oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection brief, turbulent love affairs frequent periods of intense depression eating disorders, drug abuse, and other self-destructive tendencies an irrational fear of abandonment and an inability to be alone Not much research has been done on the Borderline Personality, and for many years it was difficult to diagnose- and to treat. A Borderline often feels as though his/her life is marked with a distinctive emptiness; a void in which a relationship often acts to fill. Many times the Borderline is a victim of an early dysfunctional family situation and/or emotional/physical abuse by those he/she trusted early on in childhood. The Borderline is psychotic , in the original, psychological meaning of the term: he/she is not in control and not in touch with reality. To the Borderline, a softly spoken word of advice can be construed as a threat on his/her emotional stability. An outsider's viewpoint that the Borderline is not in touch with reality often ends in a bitter and irrational dissassociation from the outsider on the part of the Borderline. Often, the Borderline ends up very much alone and victim to his/her disillusions. The Borderline stalker is very apt to see his/her actions as perfectly justified; he/she has paranoid disillusions which support these-often with disturbing frequency. The Borderline often has brief love affairs which end abruptly, turbulently and leave the Borderline with enhanced feelings of self-hatred, self-doubt and a fear that is not often experienced by rational people. When the Borderline's relationships turn sour, the Borderline often begins to, at first, harass the estranged partner with unnecessary apologies and/or apologetic behavior (i.e. letters of apology 'from the heart', flowers delivered at one's place of employment, early morning weeping phonecalls, etc.). However, the Borderline does not construe his/her behavior as harassment- to the Borderline he/she is being 'responsible' for his/her past behaviors. The next phase of the Borderline Personality develops relatively quickly and soon he/she feels suddenly betrayed, hurt, etc. and seeks to victimize the estranged partner in any way he/she can Strangely enough, this deleterious behavior is always coupled with a need to be near or in constant contact with the estranged partner . While sending threats to the estranged partner, it is very common for the Borderline to begin to stalk his/her estranged partner in an effort to maintain contact. This effort is motivated by the excruciating fear that the Borderline will end up alone and anger that [the estranged partner] has put him/her in this position. We are finding, in many cases, that a great deal of stalking behavior is associated with Borderline or related personality disorders. Earlier research did not incorporate the Borderline Personality in stalking profiles; research now is beginning to focus on the Borderline in such disorders as Erotomania, etc.

How can you help someone to understand that the more you resolve to not let the abuser get to you the worse the problem gets as the abuser will just become more and more intimidating until you submit?

Abusers are a crafty lot and usually keep their abusive behavior behind closed doors because they know they won't get away with it out in society. The victim is caught up in their web and an abuser can beat the heck out of a woman in a heartbeat, then a few hours to a day later come home with a dozen red roses and pledge to their victim "they will never do it again." They always do! I have nicknamed the abuser relationship with the victim "the rapture" because that is indeed what it is. You may not understand how this person can put up with it, but then again, you aren't there when the abuser works his magic. Until this person has had enough and decides to deal with the reality of it all there is not a thing you can do. You sound like a fine person, so all you can do is be there when this person faces reality and needs help. Good luck Merry Christmas Marcy Stalkers and the Borderline Personality The Borderline Personality In recent years psychologists have learned about and done case studies on a new personality disorder which the DSM-III-R classifies as an Axis II disorder- the Borderline Personality . This classification includes such personality disorders as the Anti-social Personality, the Histrionic Personality and the Narcissistic Personality. Several psychologists (including myself) diagonosed my stalker as afflicted with the Borderline Personality. Characteristic of the Borderline (derived from research done by Kreisman & Straus, 1989) are: a shaky sense of identity sudden, violent outbursts oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection brief, turbulent love affairs frequent periods of intense depression eating disorders, drug abuse, and other self-destructive tendencies an irrational fear of abandonment and an inability to be alone Not much research has been done on the Borderline Personality, and for many years it was difficult to diagnose- and to treat. A Borderline often feels as though his/her life is marked with a distinctive emptiness; a void in which a relationship often acts to fill. Many times the Borderline is a victim of an early dysfunctional family situation and/or emotional/physical abuse by those he/she trusted early on in childhood. The Borderline is psychotic , in the original, psychological meaning of the term: he/she is not in control and not in touch with reality. To the Borderline, a softly spoken word of advice can be construed as a threat on his/her emotional stability. An outsider's viewpoint that the Borderline is not in touch with reality often ends in a bitter and irrational dissassociation from the outsider on the part of the Borderline. Often, the Borderline ends up very much alone and victim to his/her disillusions. The Borderline stalker is very apt to see his/her actions as perfectly justified; he/she has paranoid disillusions which support these-often with disturbing frequency. The Borderline often has brief love affairs which end abruptly, turbulently and leave the Borderline with enhanced feelings of self-hatred, self-doubt and a fear that is not often experienced by rational people. When the Borderline's relationships turn sour, the Borderline often begins to, at first, harass the estranged partner with unnecessary apologies and/or apologetic behavior (i.e. letters of apology 'from the heart', flowers delivered at one's place of employment, early morning weeping phonecalls, etc.). However, the Borderline does not construe his/her behavior as harassment- to the Borderline he/she is being 'responsible' for his/her past behaviors. The next phase of the Borderline Personality develops relatively quickly and soon he/she feels suddenly betrayed, hurt, etc. and seeks to victimize the estranged partner in any way he/she can Strangely enough, this deleterious behavior is always coupled with a need to be near or in constant contact with the estranged partner . While sending threats to the estranged partner, it is very common for the Borderline to begin to stalk his/her estranged partner in an effort to maintain contact. This effort is motivated by the excruciating fear that the Borderline will end up alone and anger that [the estranged partner] has put him/her in this position. We are finding, in many cases, that a great deal of stalking behavior is associated with Borderline or related personality disorders. Earlier research did not incorporate the Borderline Personality in stalking profiles; research now is beginning to focus on the Borderline in such disorders as Erotomania, etc.

What education is needed to become a Kleptomaniac?

Kleptomaniacs are people who have a compulsion to take things that do not belong to them. It is a type of personality disorder, and requires no specific training.

How do you become an obsessed fan?

By losing perspective.