Why do transsexuals date lesbians?

Answer 1

Remember transsexualism is like a medical condition. It is not a sexual orientation nor a choice. Nobody is a transsexual any more than someone is a cancer. People have transsexualism and they have cancer. So people with transsexualism have the same four sexual orientations as others. Having a medical condition or birth defect has no bearing on your sexual orientation. So a transsexual woman would date a lesbian for the same reason that any other lesbian woman would date a lesbian.

Now, if you mean why transsexual women are more likely to date lesbians than other people, there are a few reasons. First of all, most transsexual persons get put on the correct hormones a bit late in life. So years of testosterone may cause them to have more interest in women compared to other women.

Then there is the fact that many transsexual women tried everything to try to fit in as men. That may include military service, athletics, and marriage. Transsexuals who marry before surgery may find that they aren't really interested in the sex, but in the cuddling, hugging, and just being with their spouse. If the wife will stay with the transsexual woman, then you can technically say they have a lesbian relationship.

Some transsexual women might have no use for masculinity, whether in themselves or others. Quite a few were bullied, abused, or even raped by males. Their fathers were often abusive and never tried to understand them. They were forced to associate with males and saw the cruel things the boys and men did around them. They often didn't fit in because they would not join in on the sexist jokes, the bullying, the assaults on weaker persons, and the attempts to coerce women into bed. They observe all that and want no part of it. They also read of all the reports of transsexual women who were murdered by men, and even the ones with affections for men decide it is unsafe to act upon them, so they settle for dating women. While some women can be quite abusive to transitioning transsexuals, and the tales of such abound, they rarely murder someone for having transsexualism. (Harassment and stalking are a different story.) So transsexual women who have been around very cruel men may choose women because it is safer for them. A number of non-transsexual lesbian women live as lesbians for that reason. More lesbian women than gay men are likely to admit they chose homosexuality, so personal safety seems to be a factor for some.