The answer to that is simply that the husband is still somewhat devoted to his wife and shares a special bond with her, but is looking for something different from her or something to stimulate his life or just his sex life.
He may be getting bored of the same routine and may wait a year to move in with his mistress because for as long as the husband can get away with it, he will. It wouldn't be until the wife breaks down and finally figures out that the husband is cheating or she gets suspicious and starts asking questions, accusing, or spying on the husband that he'll say "I'm done". Then that will lead to separation or divorce which gives the husband a chance to move his things in with his second supporter (the mistress).
Its rather enjoying to see a wife harrass a woman who is cheating with her husband. Most of the time its the other way around. I guess the mistress is crying to you about it am I right,she's getting what she deserves and your wife should kick your butt to the curb so you can move in with the mistress. You and your mistress deserve each other, maybe your wife will find a man who really cares about her. ANSWER: Or we could turn it around, the mistress is the one harassing the wife..
ANSWER: I don't think it's smart to talk to this other woman who had the affair with your husband. I know if you do, it will give you some closure on why he cheated on you. You will not learn anything useful. Even if she was gracious or friendly and give you all the tiny details about your husband, how would that help you? This mistress doesn't owe you nothing, even if she was the party to your husband's infidelity but he is the one who cheated on you not the other woman. Your husband made the vows of fidelity to you, not his mistress. He brought her into your marriage and put you in this situation You will not gain anything if you choose to talk to her, so if I were you I wouldn't. I am not supporting the mistress in any case, but I was in your shoes before and take my words for it, even she didn't say no to my husband, it was him who started the relationship.
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I believe you mean the Alienation of Affection law. That law states that when an outsider has a hand in ruining a marriage i.e. husband cheats on wife and wants to leave wife for mistress, that the outsider(mistress)can be sued for making the husband/wife want to end their marriage. In this case, where hubby has cheated and brought home an STD, this law would not apply unless he is saying he wants to end the marriage and move in w/girlfriend in happy herpes bliss. My advice to you is to do your own sort of alienation and tell the whole town about the mistress, your husband cheating and the STD!
Your husband has the right to raise the baby if he is the father. By law a man needs to support that child till he or she turn legal age. The only question now is, if your husband knows about the child will he leave you and move in with his mistress and his baby. He is in a big mess right now if that baby is his..
Husband. Girls tend to hold onto things longer. Guys can move on quicker.
Some marriages work out when the ex husband marries his mistress, but often the marriage becomes weak because the ex husband does not have the staying power; maturity or desire to make a marriage work. If the marriage has problems in the years to come (and there will be problems) he may well cheat on the mistress he married just like he did with you. Move on in your own life and let your ex husband find out what he is made of.
You should feel cheated if your husband is cheating on you by having a mistress. Get rid of him and find someone decent to marry. Answer Really, you do not have a marriage. Two people have to be committed to one another for it to work. Sounds like you are expecting more from him than he is even capable of and feeling sorry for yourself. Move on, get out of this marriage (say bye to the house or whatever is holding you to him) and get yourself back. You are worth it!
ANSWER:Tell him that he needs to talk to his ex mistress and tell her to stop, or else tell your husband that you will not put up with his ex mistress. Either he made her stop, or tell him that he needs to move out, period.
He would lay low for a while. It is hard to end a relationship that has history. (The kind he shared with his wife). Don't push, in retrospect move on and find someone who is available, and wants to communicate with you. It is less stressful, and more honest.
* Your husband will not admit cheating is wrong because you are enabling his behavior. You are still there! Cheating is disrespectful, selfish and cruel and you should gather up all your strength and let him know you've had enough of his cheating and kick his fanny out the door and file for divorce. Move on as there is someone out there that is better suited to your needs. Life is too short to waste.
he's cheating on you or he's getting bored of you but still loves you at the same time.