Why does your husband call you names and swears at you when you fight?

Answer 1

Because he is living in a different reality, creating a picture in his head of the perfect mate, someone who is there only to meet his needs and has none of her own. Unfortunately, it is only a picture, and when you have the audacity to express an opinion or need that does not fit with his image, he gets angry and tries to force you to be that image by name calling, a typical abusive behavior. Basically he is trying to control you with words, until you conform to his image, which will never happen - just start making your way to the door and leave the relationship behind if you ever want to be happy again.

We are answering your question without having ever met either you or your husband, and we don't really know what is going on. It is easily possible that you are utterly innocent, and are simply being abused by a terrible husband whom you were foolish enough to marry and from whom you now desperately need to escape, as the original answer indicates. But there are other possibilities. For example, let us say that one of the horrible names that you are being called is slob. For all we know, maybe you really are a very sloppy person who deserves to be called a slob. Perhaps your husband is expressing his frustration about real problems that you are causing him. If that is the case, you might be able to change your own behavior so that your husband will be happy with you and will no longer feel the need to call you horrible names. To really know what is going on I would have to speak to both of you, as a marriage counsellor, and hear both sides of the story. At this point the one definite conclusion I have is that your marriage is not working well, and needs to be either fixed or ended.

Answer 2

Because he's insecure . No one deserves to be treated with that much disrespect.

Answer 3

because mabey he juast cant stand the way he gets yelled at mabey you just should walk away or mabey he cant take you yelling at him