Why is it hard to leave someone even when you don't love them and you're not scared of them?

Answer 1

Apathy? Fear of change? The need for security?

Because they wear you down with self doubt. They work on you so bad to keep you that once you don't love them and have had enough the self doubt keeps you there. Its almost like they have a radar detector to know when you have had enough and no hope is left with them.That's when they turn on the charm. That's when its you that's being blamed in subtle ways. That's when they have the most human feelings such as fear.But beware, this is short lived and soon they return to their nasty selves once they feel more assured you will stick around.It took me a year of not loving my ex until i left. It was years before that of hell. The mental exhaustion kept me there as well as I felt too tired to look beyond the day. I was in mere survival mode.Do not be hard on yourself that you have not left yet. See this as a time to agther your inner and outer resources and strength.Start taking steps to leave. Know that you have so much more inner power and pride that is just hidden from all the abuse.Let who you are come to the surface. You have what it takes to get out and stay out. If I did, you can too!Best Wishes. PS: I love waking up in the morning as I think wow I look and feel great and no person will ever take my pride and self respect from me again. Some days it has been just sheer pride and stubborness that has kept me away but as time goes on I relaise it is also largely a new self love for myself and life. Good Luck