Your ex you are his ex both married with children still in love don't know what to do?

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My husband and I have been married for just about 4 years. We've been together since 19..we had a break up about 7 years ago due to at the time him not working and being a typical "kid", I met my ex at work. He was nothing like my (husband now) career oriented, kept himself together nice, smart, and he loved me (we dated for 7 months). That seven months left more of an impact on me than the last 9 years with my husband. I broke it off with him because I felt as if he wouldn't except my disfunctional family (my insecurities)..he tried his hardest to get me back, gifts, calling, but I just didn't see it and went back with my now husband.

We now have two toddlers. My husband loves me, but I am the decision maker in EVERYTHING that we do...I feel as though I have THREE children. I think we've just grown apart (even though he doesn't feel this).

Recently, I've decided to meet up with my ex for dinner...we couldn't get enough of each other, such a connection (as he expressed as well). We can't go one day since then without emailing or talking on the phone or meeting up. He got married two years ago and has a daughter now too. We are still in love with each other and what I wasn't ready for at 20 I am ready for now. He has told me twice that he loves me and always will..I feel the same. I didn't make a mistake because I have two great kids out of my relationship with my husband and a learning experience. I am only 27-love can't just stop here can it??

My question...if we are both unhappy in our marriages because we want to be with each other, which will be felt by the children and even arguements eventually, is it worth sticking it out? Don't we only go around once..and should we always follow the "plan"? We are both thinking of our children and "what's right"...but..what is "right"?