Okonkwo beat Ojiugo during the Week of Peace.
Okonkwo has anger problems and takes it out on his spouses. Okonkwo's wife Ojiugo forgets to get Okonkwo and her children their meals, as she went to get her hair plaited at her friend's house. The first wife ends up feeding her children. Okonkwo beats Ojiugo for her negligence. Unfortunately, this beating violates the sacred Week of Peace. During the New Yam Festival, Okonkwo gets restless and angry, and makes up an excuse to beat his second wife.
During the second year of exile, Okonkwo's friend Obierika came to visit him. Obierika came to inform Okonkwo about the destruction of their village, Abame, by a white man's messenger. He also brought news about the hardships faced by the clan due to the presence of missionaries in their land.
Ekwefi and Okonkwo fall in love after a wrestling match in which Okonkwo demonstrates his strength and courage. Ekwefi is impressed by Okonkwo's prowess and determination, and they begin a courtship that leads to marriage.
Okonkwo's second wife is Ekwefi, mother of Ezinma. Okonkwo originally wished to have Ekwefi as his first wife, but he could not afford the dowry at the time. Ekwefi ran away from her first husband to be with Okonkwo.
The Flower Festival is during the second week of April.
Okonkwo's duty is to stay alive so that he and his family may go back to their village.
Ekwefi was a woman who loved wrestling, and fell in love with Okonkwo when she saw him throw Amalinze the Cat. She wanted to marry Okonkwo, but at the time, Okonkwo was too poor to marry. She ended up marrying another man, Anene, but after a couple years she ran away from him during the night to Okonkwo. Okonkwo took her and made love to her in his obi. Ekwefi became Okonkwo's second wife. Her love of wrestling remained. She bore child after child, but they all died during their early years until she had Ezinma. She treated her daughter Ezinma like a sister, as an equal. She continued to have children with Okonkwo, and fathered at least 10 children with him. Ekwefi often drew Okonkwo's rage, and was beaten by him occasionally. After one particular beating near the Festival of Yams, she made fun of Okonkwo's lack of prowess with a gun. This remark earned her a near-death experience, as Okonkwo discharged the gun at her, but did not end up hitting her. During one day, her daughter Ezinma was taken by the oracle Agbala's representative Chielo late at night. Worried for her daughter, she risked the wrath of the Gods by secretly following Chielo around the nine villages and back to her cave home where she communed with Agbala, all in very low light. Her daughter Ezinma also came down with the Iba or fever one day. She feared for Ezinma's death, but Ezinma managed to be healed by her father, Okonkwo. After Ezinma's iwi-uya was found, she felt much more relieved. Ekwefi continued to stay with Okonkwo, following him in exile to Mbanta, and then back home to Umuofia.
Although not specifically mentioned, it can be guessed that Ekwefi is Okonkwo's favourite wife.Okonkwo originally wanted to take Ekwefi for his first wife, but he did not have enough money to pay for her dowry at the time.
It reveals that Okonkwo does have a love relationship side to him as well besides the side of him wanting to be masculine and promote himself in the eyes of other villagers.
Okonkwo becomes a father to Ikemefuna, and Ikemefuna calls Okonkwo father. Ikemefuna is like the second man in the house, the closest to Okonkwo's personality, and helps to develop Nwoye's manhood. Okonkwo likes Ikemefuna, but does not show his feelings towards Ikemefuna because to do so would be unmanly.
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He tells Okonkwo that the child is an ogbanje, a child who after dying re-enters their mother's womb to be born again.