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My estranged NPD husband (I have hired a lawyer to file for divorce) is afraid of being exposed to HIMSELF. I sent him the DSM-IV link for diagnosis of NPD, offered to help him in any type of recovery he might want (regardless of the divorce which will proceed). He replied that he is toxic, should not be close to people, will warn people who want to be close to him, but says he wants to be "whoever" (his word) he is. He does not want to change. He fears looking at the underlying emotional trauma which caused him to create the "false self" (my words). He does not have time for further self-examination (his words.)
What else can I help you with?
Does a narcissitic fear exposure to the point of attempting to explain what has just happend?
Yes -- the Narcissist will tell HIS/HER OWN VERSION of the truth and try to tell it first & loudest. Don't believe it.
What is a narcissist's greatest fear?
A narcissists greatest fear is to be all alone in their life, with no one to control or belittle. Not until then does the narcissist truly understand that they are in fact worth Less than other people. Since they are empty shallow people, they need to be filled up by others. So solitude is their absolute greatest fear..
If a narcissist marries someone with Borderline Personality Disorder do they have a better chance of making the marriage work longterm?
In my humble opinion, they have no chance of any meaningful relationship because of the inability to love. This is a very difficult combination; the borderline will have a deep fear of rejection and so does the narcissist. The Narcissist is likely to lie and cheat which compounds the Borerlines fear of rejection, the lack of empathy from the narcissist replays the early injuries to the Borderline. There is a very good book. The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple - A Psychoanalytic Perspective on marital treatment.
How can you manipulate your narcissistic ex into doing what is in the best interest of your daughter?
Narcissists are tricky, and I've done a lot of research on this subject. Manipulating a narcissist isn't really that hard. You can smother the narcissist in compliments, you can intimidate them with something they fear, believe me it works.
Why would a Narcissist stalk and harass when you leave him instead of just acting like you do not exist and moving on?
Because he doesent want to lose that control, he doesent want to lose you, you fuel his needs, narcissist dont think just anyone will put up with them. Narcissist fear greatly being a lone, no one to abuse and they just have to be depressed.
Why would a narcissist agree to marriage if they are afraid of commitment?
Perhaps he (or she) has overcome his fear of commitment. And perhaps he has found the woman that he feels is genuinely right for him.
What type narcissist stays with another abusive narcissist?
A borderline. Essentially a more emotionally reactive narcissist.
After a breakup is a narcissist less likely to contact you if he or she believes you have figured them out?
If they know that you have figured them out, they will not want to be around you for fear that you will tell people the truth. What they really need is help for their problem.
Will a narcissist in the closet ever admit to being gay?
It is unlikely for a narcissist in the closet to openly admit to being gay, as they often struggle with vulnerability and fear rejection. They may continue to deny their true sexual orientation to maintain their façade of control and superiority.
What cures Sciurophobia?
Treatment for sciurophobia, which is the fear of squirrels, typically involves cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and exposure therapy. This may include gradual exposure to squirrels in a controlled environment to help the individual overcome their fear. It's important for individuals with sciurophobia to seek help from a mental health professional to address their specific fears and develop coping strategies.
Why a cheating married narcissist become suddenly guilty about cheating?
They are afraid of getting caught. Narcissists do not like consequences. It's not "guilt." It's fear of losing their control over the situation.
How does one instill fear in a narcissist?
well...i sadly believe that its impossible to do this without driving the poor guy(girl) to the brink of suicide. Sure at times after experiencing, or worse, loving a narcissist we've wished that fate upon them abstractly. its so sad that good people can be driven to such hateful and vengeful places in our hearts...but this is the work of the narcissist. the longer you spend time with one the more your reactions toward them resemble theirs. i have been there. but yes yes you can instill fear in them and here is how: Watch as they go thru their lives alienating and hurting everyone around them. if you can secretly communicate with those people and tell them that he is a narcissist and that the best thing they can do is to sever contact.( this goes for loved ones as well. even family members ...often these people are the worst effected by the narcissist so often they will go along with you gladly in hopes everyone is preparing for some form of intervention. sadly, these dont exist, or if they do they wont work.) all the while remaining in the relationship which will be torturous, especially after all other whipping posts and emotional punching bags have gotten distance. you will be reaping all of that hate upon yourself, but you will be in such a position of control because the narcissist will be SO FEARFUL you will leave as well. oh, they wont be nice to you then! nothing will change aside from for the worse, but the narcissist will be AFRAID..VERY AFRAID. but beware if you leave them they might leave this earth. also beware they might make you leave them (murder you) before you get a chance to leave.this is not meant as a joke. truth is, the narcissist is always in fear of some sort and the kind of fear we healthy people fear is very different than that of a narcissist...but its fear nontheless New Answer-By exposing them and saying you can see trough their mask,but be careful,they are very angry individuals and hold grudges forever !
