How do you deal with a terminally ill narcissistic individual?

Answer 1

If the "patient" is genuinely a narcissist, you can bet your life that he made others gravely ill, or worse, in his lifetime. I know a narcissist who brags about the women in whom he created permanent psychological, emotional and/or physical disabilities. If the narcissist/patient is terminal - rejoice. Your own misery will soon be over.

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I absolutely agree with most of what has been said here. There are two articles available on this topic that I'm aware of:

The Terminal Illness and Death of a Narcissistic Personality Disordered Mother by Gail Meyers

The Dangers of Expecting a Deathbed Apology from Your Terminally Ill Narcissistic Personality Disordered Mother by Gail Meyers

both at http://echorecovery.blogspot.com

Answer 2

If possible, cut this person out of your life completely. These people can only cause heartache in you life. They are very manipulative and sneaky and bring chaos into any relationship they're in. They just don't care about anyone but themselves. If you can't completely cut this person out of your life, try to keep a distance. Do no share any of your personal business with them. Make it a point to avoid them as much as possible. Please take this information seriously. I've been through this situation and I am still learning to deal with the damage and anger and have been working with a therapist.

Answer 3

Just be there for them. *There goes that word again "Narcissist" and it's often unfair to label some people in this way. A person can be egotistical, a perfectionist or a plain pain in the neck, but it doesn't make them a Narcissist. Having a problem such as this just put yourself in this person's shoes. How would you feel knowing you are dying? It's terrifying to some and to others it's a blessing. No one in their right mind would be in a good mood over wondering when they are going to die, how much pain they will endure and they always have some hope way in the back of their mind that some miracle cure could come at anytime. Also, many people dying from different diseases really can't believe they are going to die. As the other poster said, just be there for this person. It's going to be a long and hard road for you, but remember, you have a life ahead of you and this person doesn't.