What affect does Ignoring the narcissist have on them?

Answer 1

It really bothers them. They feel 'forgotten' and for a narcissist to be forgotten is to be insignificant. I was working with a fairly famous musician for a time who was a HUGE narcissist. I finally gave up on his rude behaviour and ignored him. Two weeks later, he's contacting and sucking up to me, despite that he has thousands of fans.

But when they do re-contact you, it's only so they can test you. They're trying to get a reaction out of you to feed their ego. Just keep ignoring them. Silence, and indifference is the best kind of revenge.

Answer 2

If you think about a narcissist they only care for their own needs. They will not be thinking about you at all, but their next supply. And this is their focus they know you are a problem/figured them out. They don't have feeling for you. They are unable to be intimate They will always make themselves look good. but the truth is when their done, their done! Get educated! You have learned much more about finding a solid relationship. They will never have one. Life is short. Keep moving. I have three kids all 12 and under saw the behavior before I did. SCARY! My daughter's advice -- don't even think about it mom!

Answer 3

No, they think about themselves more. When you are dealing with the personality disordered, you are not dealing with someone who thinks or feels the way you or I (providing you are not a narcissist) feel about things. They can put on a great act of caring, but the brutal truth is they do not care about how their actions affect others. The only interest they have is how they are affected. If you put your feet on a coffee table, do you care how the coffee table feels? This is their view of the world...others are playthings here for their enjoyment and pleasure, and once you are no longer useful, you become expendable. They may come back, professing how much they miss or care about you, but they don't care about YOU, they care about what you can supply for THEM. As long as you feed the vampire, it will drain as much as it can get before moving on. They do not miss you, they miss supply. Anytime you are dealing with these people, always keep it in the back of your mind and ask yourself "What is s/he going to get from this?" because that is all that matters to them. If you left them, then it is likely if they think about you at all, it is in the terms that you are to blame, you have hurt them and taken away their supply.