What does love feel like to a narcissist?

Answer 1

Like the other person is an extension of them and their self-esteem. Very often the other person is just arm trophy or used as a pretence to the outside world that they are normal; when they are very not normal.

Answer 2

They have experienced hell on earth. At the very least they have experienced the worst mental and psychological torture of their lives. A narcissist is "typically" charming, charasmatic and highly manipulative? They have a silver tongue and they can con many from a distance. The world's perception of him/her is number 1. These "actors" are a grand illusion. They feed on sensitive, compassionate, and trusting prey.

Their victims become a never-ending feed of Narcissitic Supply! As long as you are an adoring fan and provide the admiration that they so righteously deserve, you are fairly safe! The minute that you act as if you have your own mind or have conflicting views, look out! I said "fairly safe" for a good reason. There is a slow progression of subliminal, underlying attacks that you will begin to endure from the narcissist regardless of what you do. These attacks are very purposeful and necessary for the narcassists. They belittle their prey continuously to reinforce their illusions of grandeur and to establish their dominating role in the relationship. They feel better about themselves when they put you down. The degredation may include attacks on the significant others physical appearance, career, childrearing abilities, domestic abilities and much more. Then they will buy you a gift or take you for a surprise dinner. Your emotions become a roller coaster. You begin to question your own sanity. Your Narcissist will often attempt to provoke you in front of others as a diliberate trigger to "strategically" cause an emotional reaction. This way they can look at you, in front of others, and say," honey you are losing it" or "see I told you he/she was crazy!" Empathy and compassion do not exist within a true Narcassist. However, they can "ACT" and appear to have these character traits in order to get what they want. The worst part of this experience is that often the Narcissist "appears" (perception is number 1) to be a great guy to the rest of the world!

The result: You have been deceived in every possible way by someone who has zero regret or remorse. Therefore, your trust has been ripped apart by the one person that you at one time believed loved you and would never hurt you. You question the genuiness of any and every person. You always second guess the motives and agendas of others from that point. There is no longer a trace of the abundant faith and trust in mankind that you once enjoyed. YOU HAVE BEEN BROKEN! Picking up the pieces and rebuilding the self esteem that you had before is not easy after a relationship with a Narcassist. It is a slow, one day at a time process. In short, stay away from anything that resembles an over-inflated ego, which requires continuous validation for their superiority, uniqueness, and overall greatness!

Answer 3

No wonder this question hasn't been answered - it's a paradox. First off, a narcissist is unlikely to be looking at a site dedicated to narcissistic abuse. Secondly, narcissists only 'love' themselves!! So look up the meaning of narcissistic abuse and you'll see the meaning of love to a narcissist.