What happens when you confront a narcissist?

Answer 1

With great difficulty. They become enraged, deny everything, call you a liar, turn everything around blame you and play victim. (Sob, sob.) The best you can do is learn from the experience and distance yourself from them and/or leave them completely but what you cannot do is ever change them by telling them what is wrong with them.

Answer 2

They go into a rage because they believe they are beyond reproach and will not accept any discussion or criticism or accountability for their actions. If they think you have them figured out or you are a threat they will relentlessly try to destroy you. They will accuse you of having a disorder or try to accuse you of something in order to refocus off from themselves to you. they will go to any means to hurt you. Revenge is utmost priority. They will do anything to make you pay. Their sense of self entitlement literally speaks "I am above reproach" This is what makes them so dangerous. They try to win at all cost. They are very destructive and have a "take no prisoners" "show no mercy" philosophy. They enjoy the game. It makes them feel important.

Answer 3

If the person is truly a narcissist you do not waste your time or risk infuriating them by explaining they are one in any depth. Firstly they cannot conceive of any fault or flaw in their make up or dealings with you and others.

They even cannot fully grasp the real significance of empathetic relationships, or what that feels like in a two way street. Nor do they care to.

They are highly unlikely to seek treatment for it and that's if they would accept they were narcissistic which is even less likely. Actually the condition cannot be treated, nor do therapists want to deal with them.

A few narcissists forced by external demands can be taught by behavioral modification to make a few adjustments to their conduct.

Again, if the person is a narcissist you should be looking at removing yourself from dealing with them as much as possible for your own sake.

Leave telling a narcissist that they are a narcissist to a psychiatrist who in the appropriate context has the expertise to do this as well as to make such a diagnosis clinically.