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A rageaholic (patterned after "alcoholic" or "workaholic") is a person who is addicted to fits of rage, and might become mentally abusive, or controlling, towards other people. Unlike a typically predictable alcoholic, who might need to drink Scotch or Tequila to cross-over and become vicious, a rageaholic might explode in anger at any time, with no warning at all for the poor victims in the vicinity. Rageaholics have been known to pull down curtains, ripping curtain rods out of the wall, stomp on property for-sale signs, and pull TV satellite-dishes off the roof.
Rageaholics Anonymous (with a Los Angeles chapter) recommends that a rageaholic must avoid taking the first rage fit, coping one day at a time, because any encouraged fit of anger could escalate beyond the control of a recovering rageaholic. As is said of cocaine use: 1 is too many, and 10,000 is never enough. Once a rageaholic begins the first tantrum of the day, there is no set limit to how much continued anger can be sustained throughout the day. After a pleasant rest of extended sleep, a rageaholic might explode into even greater anger, powered by the extra sleep, feeding the addiction with intense outbursts. A rageaholic might feel, during an intense fit of anger, that any judgment or reaction is totally justified, before God and everybody, in order to correct the situation causing the anger. Sometimes the reaction is simply to hit or smash things that are self-righteously judged as "wrong" (or just "irritating"). A rageaholic fit of mental abuse could become physical abuse, from the mindset that the physical abuse will correct the situation.
Related terms: anger management, uncontrolled anger.
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Can narcissists change their ways?
Okay I myself am a narcissist and used to have extreeeme NPD, so I will try to answer the question. Following a breakup I developed severe depression and went to see a therapist, more on relatives' advice than my own will. Anyways, once I found out that I have a "disorder" I started freaking majorly and even drank some pills and had some sort of psychotic break- that was the false self trying to kill me I guess. Anyways, I stopped going to therapy :), and excommunicated my relatives :(, but I've learned my lesson, I'm back with an old girl, getting back on track, and believe it or not- although my body language is still arrogant- I'm not mean or cruel anymore, and I'm actually a lot more relaxed. The thing is- I still have NPD surely, it's just that now I want to use it to be kind to people and suceed- not to be mean and suceed; I think that's what can help a person with NPD most- realizing that it's not necessary to be mean to be an overachiever, matter of fact it's better if you're actually nice; but that's an incredibly tough thing to actually do- matter of fact it almost killed me. But- and here's the big BUT- even after the whole ordeal, I realize that along with my ambition my NPD is coming back- it's just that I want to look nice and successful to others AND treat them nice, not look nice and successful and actually be a neurotic rageaholic. Oh, and another biggie- this disorder is actually made, a person is not born with it, and usually some relative of the person - in my case my dad- has severe NPD as well. It might sound dumb but excommunicate that person and your own NPD will wane a bit- I don't see my dad anymore and frankly I don't want to- he'll never get it and I don't feel like taking his rages personally on a daily basis. :)
What is the origin of walking on eggshells?
The idiom walking on eggshells generally describes a situation in which people must tread lightly around a sensitive topic, or make every effort not to offend a volatile or hypersensitive person. Literally walking on eggshells would require exceptional caution and self-control, similar to the feeling of avoiding conflict with an easily disturbed friend, relative or employer. Family members of active alcoholics or rageaholics often describe their careful avoidance of conflict as "walking on eggshells." The origin of the idiom is a matter of dispute, but the general consensus is that walking on eggshells came from the same place as other cautionary actions, such as walking on thin ice or broken glass. Some sources suggest that "walking on eggshells" came from an earlier idiom, "walking on eggs." While walking on eggshells presents enough difficulty for most people, walking on the whole egg without damage would be nearly impossible. Certain politicians who took extraordinarily cautious positions on an issue were said to have the dubious ability to walk on eggs without breaking them. There are any number of people who have poor anger management skills or a hair trigger temper. Even the slightest offense or deviation from routine may be enough to trigger an explosive emotional outburst or physical reaction. This volatility may be enough to cause others to modify their own behavior and actions to maintain a tense but workable work or social environment. Walking on eggshells around a known rageaholic or temperamental person may be viewed as a form of self-preservation, although often accompanied by feelings of anxiety or dread. Failure to maintain such a non-confrontational atmosphere may end badly. There are also times when people may feel like walking on eggshells around otherwise self-controlled family members, co-workers or employers. A certain subject may prove so potentially upsetting that others agree not to bring it up around those it affects most. Family members may walk on eggshells around a patient until the results of an important medical test are revealed, for example. Employees may feel as if they were walking on eggshells until their employer learns of a project's fate. Any circumstance in which the need for diplomacy and tact outweigh the need for direct confrontation could easily trigger a need to walk on eggshells. Once the situation has been resolved or the person's own coping skills improve, walking on eggshells may no longer be required.
