Why does your ex narcissist spy on you?

Answer 1

It pisses off the N if you move on and are fine without him. He wants you to be miserable without him.

In order to test the waters. Remember you are an object, not a real person who is entitled to their privacy. You (the object) will always be an extension of the narcissist in the N's mind, so they feel it is their right to keep tabs on you for years, if need be. It also contributes toward the feeling that N's think they are omnipotent and omniscience. It may also be that they have no new NSS on the horizon and cling to old NSS for dear life.

Want to mess with your spying N? Purposely give out fraudulent info to throw them off your scent.

My N (my step-father) who I ran as fast as I could from when I was old enough would track me down and call me and act like I was his best friend. Totally weird (considering how mean he was to me at home) and WRONG (nature of the phone call, usually sexual)!! I'm sure you can figure out why I ran and never looked back.

Yes, first posting was correct! He wants you to be miserable, mine really got off on that! We have been split up a year now and i used to call him only to be rejected and hurt more, yet I could tell he loved it and was getting off on it. I decided to never call him again and I moved house (he couldn't use my landline) even though he never actually called me when we were over, he knew me well enough to know I would! Once i had stopped about 2months he would ring me on his mobile at my shop and leave his phone on so i could hear him talking to his sister and hubby about his 'great achievements' another time just banging on the phone and the third time just silence. Trying to make out his phone must have been unlocked and dialled me, and that happened 3 times in 3 weeks! I didnt talk to him by the way or phone him back (which im sure was the reason of his little exercise). Bottom line of this is I m not worth spying on, he's not interested to, however he does want to remind me he is still out there a kind of 'yep its me, do'NT forget me, i want to know you cant cope and hurt you and i do miss that'. all your ex narc will be interested in is hoping you are not coping without him and he is just looking for clues!