Is it proper for the father of the groom to bring his girlfriend to the wedding?

Answer 1

It depends on the circumstances of the separation/divorce. How long has she been the father's girlfriend? Are they living together or engaged? If the girlfriend was the reason for the separation/divorce, and if the mother and groom have not accepted the girlfriend, then that could get a bit touchy. But there are still other things to consider. If it was an amicable divorce, or if the girlfriend was not the cause for the divorce, then there is no reason not to bring the girlfriend. But either way, it would be best to try to put emotions aside for the wedding, since it is not about the father or his girlfriend, nor the mother. Everyone should be civil and polite, and keep the event about the son and his bride, and the fact that it's their special day. You also have to keep in mind that the relationship between the groom's mother and father is between them, and should have no bearing on the wedding. Also, remember the father IS the father, and should be respected as such. However, if the girlfriend was the cause for the divorce, and if there are hard feelings towards her because of it, then maybe the groom could respectfully ask his father to not bring the girlfriend with him, explaining why he feels it best that she not attend. If she was the reason for the father and mother splitting up, she should be understanding about the request. Just be kind when you talk to her about it, and show her respect, and she will be much more likely to understand that emotions about her relationship with the father are still pretty raw.