If you sent a gift you should assume it was received. If the bride never calls to say thank you then after maybe a month you can call and ask either if it was received or if she enjoyed it.
Yes it is VERY rude.
You don't need to ask why. Just be gracious and thank them.
No. The bride should thank the guest for the gift and thought that went into buying it despite the mishap, as a gift is never required. If the guest sees fit and is able to replace the item, they will do so of their own accord.
Well normally people would buy a lucky horse shoe but if I was you ask the bride what the lucky couple want.
A shower for the Bride for members of the Groom's family and his friends who have not met her yet. It's more of a meet and greet than a gift shower, but when in doubt, ask.
Asking a guest who is already giving a gift at a wedding shower to bring a small kitchen gadget in addition is a very odd request and not the norm. Perhaps the hostess is thinking of some sort of game to play and the bride to be gets to keep the kitchen gadgets after the game is over. If this was the case then the hostess should have communicated to the guests this would be part of a game played at the shower. If this is not the case then it is very rude for the hostess to ask any guest to buy a small kitchen gadget in addition to a gift already bought for the bride to be.
no guys do not get offended but it is considered to be rude for the person to tell you how much they spent on the gift, so you put them in a bad situation.
If your friends live out of town then you can ask and tell them you apologize, but with the way the mail service is you wanted to be sure if they did send a gift that you wanted to be sure to let them know you got it. If your friends live near you then 'no' you do not ask if they have sent your son a wedding gift. Sometimes people send wedding gifts on the late side. Your son and his bride should know by the wedding cards if they received a gift from your two friends or not. If your friends weren't invited to the wedding then it is up to their own discretion to give a wedding gift or not.
A good wedding gift is usually something the couple needs. You should ask where they are registered, as that will give you several ideas, and you won't risk getting a duplicate gift!
* For second marriages a gift certificate to a store of choice for the couple (the bride to be may be registered so ask. If not choose a nice store yourself and get them a gift certificate or, give them the money. Money is very acceptable these days when it comes to weddings and allows the bride and groom to choose something they prefer.
Just ask them don't worry about being rude, cause if they didn't they will change the subject. or point out a really nice gift that you know who gave it to you and act like you don't know who gave it to you, see if they claim it as theirs. And if so BUSTED!!!
of course i can if you find some answers on here rude just ask the moderator to delete them