Should you marry a man with bi polar disorder?

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The first question I ask is "Is he on medication???"

I married someone with bipolar who was not and refused to be on medication and we are now divorced. I think had he been taking some form of medication like he was supposed to, we could have made it.

Please know fully the symptoms of Bipolar disorder before you commit to marriage with this person, because they alot of times do not realize they are going thru a manic or depressive state, and many times you don't realize it either.

I read many books about bipolar and researched it online, and still married him knowing he wasn't on any medication...and the symptoms of mania/depression arose.

Manic states produce a bigger than life feeling...they are known to have frequent and various sex partners, gamble, take unneccessary risks, etc.

Depressive states produce a lower than all low feeling...they don't feel productive and so are unable to cope with day to day activities, suicidal thoughts or tendecies, moody, etc.

These can alternate, but in my case it was like my husband had 2 different personalities... Jekkyl and Hyde per say. Some days were good, but a lot of times it seemed like we were on a nonstop roller coaster.

I'm not saying your person is that same as mine, but please read up on the subject and know that you may be signing up for more than you bargained for. Good luck.