It's not in most cases. Destination weddings may be an exception, but to invite someone to your shower and not your wedding is a big no no.
It is proper to invite only the children that will be part of the wedding, or to invite only immediate family member's children, ie. nieces & nephews. However, it is not appropiate to invite some family's children and not others, or some friend's children and not others.
Write "Adults Only Ceremony and Reception" on the bottom of your wedding invite
It is proper etiquette to only invite people to the shower who will also be invited to the wedding. If the couple is having a private ceremony with only family, then only invite family to the shower. If they are eloping and not inviting anyone, it would be safest not to have a shower because those at the shower would be expecting a wedding invitation.
You do not have to pay foranyone's dinner. However, proper etiquette says that if you can pay in this situation, you do.
what is the proper lineup of the wedding party on the wedding day who comes in when
You can, of course, but a great deal of tact will be required since it's only human nature for those not invited to the wedding to wonder how you reached the decision to invite others and not them.On the other hand, there could be resentment if you invite friends to neither the shower nor the wedding!One idea might be to make it a special shower, maybe with champagne and good finger food, and explain privately to each person not invited to the wedding how bad you feel at not being able to fit everybody in, but there simply isn't room.Perhaps you could give them, privately again, a small gift - a keepsake - of the wedding and suggest that once you're settled following the honeymoon, you'll give a simple, intimate party just for them. Do this before the wedding, otherwise it might appear to some that you feel they're upset and are simply trying to pacify them.
The means of payment should be specified as part of the invitation. Otherwise, the host is expected to pick up the tab.
No, it is not proper etiquette to send weddinginvitations by email if it is a large wedding. If you are having a small wedding and it's casual then you could send a card invitation by email.
The host of the bridal shower obviously did not do her homework and invite you to the wedding shower if you lived in the same city or town. If you live out of town then that may be the reason you did not receive a wedding shower invitation. You could spent $50 and up (you decide) for either a cash gift and don't break your bank account by giving more than you can afford.
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Yes it is etiquette to have a bridal shower for a second wedding.
I have not seen the phrase used in a wedding invitation, but in newspaper wedding announcements and in wedding programs (church bulletins). -Emee Wedding Consultant Portland, OR