Does parenting affect a child's behavior?

Answer 1

Here is a scenario 2 mothers went to a grocery store with their children and all the mothers must rush home to make dinner and the mothers are running an hour late. Let's call the mothers A and B.

Mother A before driving to the store, at home she took the time to explain to her 4 year old child that if he behave and does not run around the store then when they are done shopping he will pick out a small toy from the store to take home (even though she did not want to sped the time explaining her child she did). When explaining she made eye contact and really dedicated the 5 minutes only to him to go over the rules. She also told the child he can help put things in the cart to make things fun.

Mother B on the way to the store in the car she tells her child if you run around in the store you will be punished or spanked and you will have no toys to play with I will take them away. We don't have to run around we must get home to make dinner I'm late. You must be good.

Now you are at the store with all the mothers and their kids. You see mother A with her child and the child sees the toy he wants so he is getting a bit uneasy but she reminds him of the deal she maid with him. The child does not want to wait and wants the toy she stops and tells him lets finish up here we only have a few things that we need and we will go back to get your toy. In the mean time you can help me put things in the cart and we can sing a song. And the child does not want to wait but he does, and eventually he gets his toy.

Mother B with her kid. Her kid runs around the store and she is yelling at him come here. I told you are not going to get toys, and she tries to get him under control but she has a hard time with that.

Mother A child gets reassurance and he is spoken to in a different way then mothers B child. Mother B child gets threatened the toys will be taken away and etc.. How ever the child does not know how to behave because it's not shown to him. He sees the mother act and yell in the store at him so now he know that's the way we act when we need attention or wants to communicate.

Now what kind of situation you would prefer to be in?

Children watch us adults and they mimic everything we do. And yes parenting does play a big roll in children's behavior. So we need to look at our self before we expect our children to be angels. We need to give them time even when we are in a rush instead of five minutes take two. It makes a deferent's of the world.