If you were any kind of man you wouldn't have cheated in the first place. But since that is no longer a legitimate option, tell her where she lives and get your marriage back on track with some good old fashioned counseling.
Another PerspectiveYou should not provide your lover's address if there is the slightest chance you wife will cause harm to her property of her person. Wives often blame the lover for their husband's infidelity, therefore there is a very good chance your wife has bad intentions. Giving out that address may cause even more trouble. Accept your own punishment.
Adultery & Concubinage [Art. 333-334]
If your husband has broken off the affair with the mistress then your husband should do the right thing and pay child support, but that does not mean you have to accept the child into the family. If the mistress does not want the child then it is up to you whether you want to help to raise that child. If your husband is still seeing his mistress then pack his bags and kick him out and either file for a separation or divorce.
Answer There are always two sides to every story. Maybe you don't do it for him in the bedroom or whatever, but for him to refuse to give up a mistress would make me want to call a lawyer about a divorce. Why should you take this kind of treatment from any man. It's time to move on and dump this guy.
Most mistress' do not tell the wife she is cheating with the wife's husband and the only reason for that would be to pour salt into an open wound. Mistress' are losers and will never be at the top of the list in any man's life. He may take her on vacation, dine out, go to the theater, etc., but he will generally go back to his wife or, if she finds out and they divorce the percentage is very low the husband will continue a relationship or marry his mistress.
Firstly the wife knowing very well her husband has a mistress should not be having a sexual relationship with him and knowing full well he uses the same toys on the wife as the mistress is disrespectful and disgusting. The wife needs to get a spine and stand up to her husband and tell him he gives up the mistress and goes to marriage counseling or he packs his bags; gets out and the wife files for divorce. Considering what the husband is doing he isn't worth keeping anyway.
you should get a divorce.
The only possible place where you can report about a mistress living with your husband is your bedroom. Here you are missing your husband. Whose fault is this after all? You can't entertain your husband here. He has to go somewhere with a mistress. Please don't report to any external party. Solve this problem yourself. Your husband is after all your husband. The mistress is simply a mistress. I hope you understand the point.
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If you cannot be found or if you refuse to respond to a petition for divorce, that cannot prevent your spouse from obtaining a divorce. The important signature on a divorce decree is that of the judge. You should contact the court where the divorce was obtained and order a copy of the divorce decree. If you go in person, you can request to see the file and review the contents.
Get a divorce!
The fact you knew he took his mistress on vacation means you are enabling his behavior of letting him have an affair in the first place. He should be taking you on a well deserved vacation and not his mistress. It's time you stood up for yourself and, if you have children it is well worth it to communicate how you feel to your husband and tell him the only way he can save the marriage is by going for marriage counseling. If he does not agree to do this and continues to see his mistress then you need to get your self respect back and start looking after any children you may have. If you don't have children then file for a divorce if your husband refuses to seek marriage counseling.
You have this situation a little backward. First off your husband should not be having an affair and you should demand he break it off entirely or you are heading for divorce court. There is no need to have anything to do with his mistress and why should you care if she apologizes or not. It's time you sat up and started to fly right and ask your husband if he even wants to save the marriage and forget the mistresses part in this.