No matter what age children are it is hard for them when their parents divorce. Even if they are 50 years old. But if you and your husband are already thinking of getting a divorce then things must be pretty tough right now. Just be sure that when you do decide to get a divorce just let them know that it is not their fault.
AnswerAny age is appropriate, as long as you get out of there as soon as you possibly can.
A bit more:
If your husband is emotionally abusive to the kids or to you, you need to get out now. To remain in a marriage and subject the children to any form of abuse will cause far, far more damage to them from coming from a broken home. Actually, in this particular situation, I would consider it a "broken home" - I would consider it mending their home life.
Growing up with an abusive parent (verbally, emotionally, physically,etc.) can cause children many problems, both while young and after they are grown. It can result in them having very poor self-esteem, deep seated anger and resentment, etc., and it can also result in them possibly being emotionally abusive to their own children one day.
So please, for yourself and your children, leave your husband now. The longer you stay, the more damage he can cause to all of you.
Although divorces are not at all easy , mainly for the children as they are torn between love for the father and love for the mothewr, the advantage for children mainly come when an abusive father has lost custody of the child to the mother, and the child has no fear any more.
you get it for her.
An abusive father and rough childhood, divorce from her husband.
Yes you can, you should complain to the police and then let them take the first action.
Call the police station and speak to an officer about it. If the step-father is threatening the children he can be removed and not the children.
You will need a lawyer to try and get you full custody of your children and your lawyer will have to prove your husband is abusive to his children. If you presently have duel custody of your children and you take the children to the UK you could be charged with kidnapping.
Keep them away from the father and make an agreement with him not to be verbally abusive to your children
You have the visitation rights that were established in the divorce, and you have no custody rights.
run away.
Not if he is abusive...physically, mentally, or emotionally. Those boys will eventually get the same treatment from him as you do, he can be the father...but that doesn't mean you can't raise them without him. Get out of that relationship before you or your unborn children are hurt. And if you can't see yourself without him...at least try. It never hurts to try, especially if he is already hurting you.
It's not likely, as custodial and visitation issues are based upon the welfare of the child or children. If the child or children are not placed in a dangerous, neglectful or abusive situation or are emotionally traumatized due to presence of another person, then it will not be relevant to the court. Any of the noted problems would be based on the evaluation of a trained professional (psychologist, social worker, medical doctor,etc.) not on the testimony of the other parent or other involved persons.
No. The court has jurisdiction over your case and over your children. You cannot remove them from the jurisdiction without the court's permission. You need to bring the situation to the attention of the court so it can investigate and modify the custody/visitation orders, if necessary. If you move the court will impose sanctions on you.