You only write on the envelope who you are addressing to. If you want to write to the wife, write down the wife's name only.
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* Not in all cases. Sometimes the widow will only go under her Christian name (Example: Jane) or, some widows prefer to be addressed as Mrs. John Doe or Mrs. Jane Doe. There are, in some cases (rare) that widows will take on their maiden name. To address an envelope it is best to put: Ms. Jane Doe (if younger) or, if elderly write Mrs. J. Doe.
Do you mean on the outside of the envelope? First Name Last Name (or company name) Street Address City, Province Postal Code
If you know the name of the husband, it is proper etiquette to address the mailing envelope to "Mr. and Mrs. [his name here]". On the inner envelope the addressing can be much more informal, with a simple "John and Jane", etc.Another PerspectiveThis is the twenty first century. Women have names and an existence apart from their husbands. An invitation can be addressed to Margaret and William Anderson. Most etiquette books are decades behind the times.
Your choice if you are addressing an envelope. Usually it would be the lady's name first. (Susan & Bob Jones) If Bob is your close friend and you don't know Susan, it's ok to make it Bob & Susan Jones. If they sign a legal document the husband's name is first.
Here's the traditional way of addressing an envelope. Let's pretend Mitch Longley and Dinie Slothouber are married, and you'd like to send them a Holiday card. You would write: "Mr. and Mrs. Mitch Longley". The word "Mrs." clarifies that your Holiday card is meant for both Mitch AND Dinie. There is no need to add Dinie's name to your envelope.
I was always told that you never seperate a man's name. So, if you are addressing a card or envelope informally, and the couple is married, it should be addressed: Jane and John Doe
If you are using "Mrs.", you must use the husbands name: Mrs. Harold Happy NOT Mrs. Jane Happy If you don't know the husband's first name, then use: Ms. Jane Happy
When addressing a business envelope where the husband is Mr. and the wife is Dr., the proper way to format the names is to list the titles in alphabetical order. Therefore, you would address the envelope as "Dr. and Mr. [Last Name]." For example: "Dr. and Mr. Smith." This shows respect for both titles.
Address the man in the same manner as if his wife were not a dentist.
Abigail Adams first husbands name was....Jhon Adams
The man's; Mr. and Mrs. John Smith, Mr. and Ms. John Smith, Mr. John Smith and Miss Jane Jones.