How can you deal with a classmate who is rude disrespectful and disobedient?

Answer 1

I recommend a two pronged approach. First, outside of the classroom, try to cultivate some sort of relationship with the student. Many kids who are behavior problems are much easier to deal with when you have some sort of relationship with them. If the disrespect comes when you are giving them a directive, try saying something like "Brian, I am respectfully asking you to ****. Please do it." If you the situation allows it, you can say something like, "Brian, am I being rude to you? I am treating you disrespectfully? Then why are you treating me that way?"

The other approach is to CALL THEIR PARENTS. I don't care if they are 1st graders or 12th graders... You need to get the parents on your side. Often disrespectful kids have disrespectful parents. It's important to engage them positively when you can because then if it gets really ugly, again you have a prior established relationship with the family. i usually being those phone calls with something positive about the kid. "Brian is really a likable kid. He has so many friends! I like Brian a lot too (this may not technically be true, but...) I'm calling because I need your help. Lately in class Brian has been ***. I know you expect him to behave in school and make the most of his learning time. Do you have any suggestions on things that you use at home to help Brian remember the appropriate way to behave?" This makes the parent the expert, and sets up a cooperative relationship. It also limits the possibility of a 20 minute diatribe on how the kids is wrecking your class...

Also remember, that most behavior is NOT ABOUT YOU PERSONALLY. The less you take it personally, the easier it is to deal with it. Look for the cause and it's easier to find a solution.
I hope this help!

Answer 2

If possible, avoid rude, disrespectful and disobedient people. That is, try not to have any interaction with them try to do this in a way that does not provoke them.