There is no reason a mother can not give a baby shower for her daughter. However, generally one of her of her girlfriends may do this, but you could have a baby shower for the relatives in the family or simply decide to have the baby shower for her. Either way is etiquette.
Etiquette concerns the comfort, care, and well being of others, and others only. It is entirely selfless and absolutely destroyed by selfishness. So etiquette does not see this shower already given. Etiquette does not care what you've done, but what you are about to do. Etiquette says if you can give her a shower, do so. If not, find someone else to help or let her know gently. It may seem like a lot, but this is love, caring, kindness, generosity, and all those other virtues that without with, etiquette would not exist.
There is more of a fuss made over the first child as far as baby showers, but there are no rules in etiquette if you want to have a second or third baby shower for the same expectant mother.
The mother or sister of the young woman expecting a baby can have a baby shower if they like. Often it is a sister that can arrange a baby shower and your sister will probably have another baby shower at work or by one of her friends.
Yes it is etiquette to have a bridal shower for a second wedding.
If your unmarried daughter does not, of her own accord (without anyone interring) want to see her boyfriend again then the boyfriends mother should not invite 15 more people to the baby shower. If your daughter loves her boyfriend then there is no reason his mother should not be able to invite 15 of her friends, but, you can ask her to help out with the expenses.
* The best thing to do is communication with your daughter-in-law's mother to see if she would like to give a baby shower and if not, then let her know you would like to give the baby shower. Generally the friends of the daughter-in-law will give a baby shower, but it's always nice when the mothers get involved. Both mothers could work together for a surprise baby shower.
usually its the maid of honor who hosts the bridal shower but i don't see why the mother of the bride couldn't do it it would make me feel more comfortable id i was planning the bridal shower for me daughter
Bridal shower is usually for the bride-to-be and her friends, Mother and Mother-in-law by specific invitation only. No one wants to do all the silly girly stuff in front of the Moms.
Baby showers aren't an Irish custom. But my grandmother had several superstitions against tempting fate and giving baby gifts before the safe arrival of the newborn was one of them. Customs and superstition notwithstanding, the etiquette rule is that one should not throw a shower for a relative as it makes the family appear greedy.
I still take a shower with my 19 year-old daughter. (mom) She still sleeps with me at times. We have a great relationship (mother & daughter). She confides in me. We are best friends, yet she knows that I'm the parent.
Phone the person that is having the baby shower and let them know that you are sorry, but you cannot attend. Generally the host of the baby shower will accept that answer and seldom ask why. It is proper etiquette to let the person know that you won't be attending. A nice note to the mother to be be would be nice and apologize for missing the grand event.