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How do you discipline a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder RAD?
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∙ 12y ago
Well - the short answer is - VERY differently than you might discipline a healthy child!
Some important facts to remember about your RAD child:
1. Any child with attachment disorder feels horrible about himself.
2. Your child feels some level of emptiness inside - like a large cavernous hole in his heart that he constantly is trying to fill. He tries in so many destructive ways because his brain never received the proper wiring that tells his heart he can trust you to love and care for him and provide for all of his needs.
3. Your child loathes himself which is why he can not seem to attach to you.
In my therapy experience, it is crucial that you do not discipline your child in a way that makes him feel worse about himself than he already does. This creates quite a challenge of course as these kids normally express such intense behaviors that almost force the parents to react. Discipline needs to focus solely around natural and logical consequences, and be underpinned with the consistent message of love and trust. You MUST do all you can to remain unaffected by his games... which I understand is extremely difficult. But when you can step back and understand why he feels and acts the way he does, it gets easier. Also - these kids are always trying to pass their emotional baggage off on to you and other family members. When they toss a bad feeling your way - just treat it like a hot potato and toss it right back. A competent therapist is a MUST to help you/him work through the difficult feelings and learn how to rebuild his life story into an accurate picture of what happened to him [and why he feels so bad.]
Check out this free guide - 'The Ten Things you Need to Know to Stay Sane' for parents and caregivers of RAD children. You can get your free copy in the link below.
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Can a licensed social worker diagnose Reactive Attachment Disorder?
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My friend has severe anger problems ADD mild OCD paranoia and now Attachment Disorder and also self harms What does Attachment Disorder in a teenage boy mean?
ADD, OCD, and Attachment Disorder are all syndromes. Syndromes are categories of symptoms, often behavioral symptoms. Self Harm (aka cutting) and "severe anger problems" are not syndromes alone, but may be related the same causal factors as Attachment Disorder, or they may not. To begin with, he may be misdiagnosed. Also, a diagnosis does not point to a specific cause. For example, ADD is a set of behavioral symptoms which can be observed and rated in their frequency and intensity, however, there can be multiple causes for ADD, or multiple factors which contribute to the cause of ADD. Attachment Disorder is usually diagnosed in early childhood as Reactive Attachment Disorder with two subtypes, in general, the first is where the child becomes too attached too quickly, or child seems inappropriately outgoing with strangers, the other, thechild seems too withdrawn and not trusting of parents or caregivers with whom a child would normally be expected to trust and bond. A male teenager with "attachment disorder" may be charming, promiscuous, may have difficulty with reciprocity, may initiate social contact for selfish ends, may have difficulty expressing deeper thoughts of feelings, or they may be the opposite, distant, aloof, withdrawn, appear "shy," or lack interest in close relationships, and generally not trust people. The natural course of Attachment Disorder is complicated. A child who suffers from RAD may grow up to be a normal functioning adult, or experience a range of personal and interpersonal problems. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy would probably be the most effective form of psychotherapy to help someone suffering from this problem. CBT would include exploring the person's past history of attachment problems as well as address current interpersonal problems. Other psychotherapies such as psychoanalytic types may help, too, but they tend to lack the structure, clear goals, time efficiency, and need for behavioral changes that people often desire most.
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What to do with a child who has Reactive Attachment Disorder?
- First - you need to care for yourself, as ay child with reactive attachment disorder can make home life completely crazy! In my experience with RAD, the parents take the brunt of the criticism and the blame for their child's behaviors. I went through it and know many others who have as well. In fact, I wrote a free guide for parents and caregivers. If you would like a copy you can request one. It is titled 'The Ten things you Need to Know to Stay Sane!' Most importantly, you must allow yourself room to feel.. even if your feelings are difficult. There is help and hope for your child, but it can come at a high cost [emotionally and financially] to your family. The guide spells out some important things to remember about your child and his beliefs and behaviors. It is not his fault... it is a tragic under development of his brain function that keeps him from trusting you. The best thing you can do with these children is to not get sucked in to their emotionally manipulative games, and to stay firm and consistent in your messages of love and trust to him. Also - finding a competent therapist is a must to help him 'rebuild' his own life story about why he feels the way he does, as well as teaching him appropriate behaviors and reactions to others.
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