How do you make a narcissist happy?

Answer 1

Firstly we have to understand what Narcissism is and what happiness is for a narcissist. It is very different in all aspects of emotion.

Narcissism is essentially an absolute self denial and an obsession with a fake self. A narcissist has zero emotional intelligence and has to act out a fake existence of a fake self. There is no spontaneous response to anything. All behaviour is rationalised and part of a manipulation process to sustain a fake image.

Happiness for a self aware human being is a function of emotional intelligence. It is a true feeling. It can be a spontaneously triggered sensation of wellness within the soul of a self aware personality. Without self awareness, there is no home for this emotional response called happiness. Without self awareness, happiness can only be a judgment made based on a set of circumstances that would indicate preciseness of a desired condition. I would like to change the word happiness to something else for a Narcissist.

For a narcissist, happiness does not exist in my opinion, in the form known to an emotionally intelligent person. For a Narcissist, happiness may be an awareness of evidence that the fake self is intact and spectacular.

So the answer to the question is as follows.

To make a narcissist happy we must understand the nature of their fake self. Then we apply adoration that will enhance this image. We must continue to provide this adoration. This is not a satisfiable appetite and without a constant supply a Narcissist will be stressed.

The fake self is created as the main tool in the process of complete self denial. Should the fake self loose its status, clarity or dominance, then the true self may begin to emerge and this is the Narcissists greatest fear. So the fake self will indeed be a kudos seeking megalomaniac in its behaviour.