I am 57 years old and a sexually abused women i was abused by my paternal father grandfather uncles male cousins why am i expected to not think that this past violation should be over?

Answer 1

it would depend on what you mean by over? i would hope that those people have stopped doing that to you... so in that sense i hope its "over". but if you mean you "getting over it" then im sorry but you most likely never truly will... an the time line isn't up to anyone else to set. the most likely cause of people telling you its over is because they don't want to deal with the guilt of either knowledge, or lack of action. so if you bring it up with them it makes them relive that guilt. it may also just be uncomfortable for them an they don't care enough to just shut up an listen to how you feel.