Is narcissism related to commitment issues?

Answer 1

Narcissists have a whole lot of quirks wrapped up inside of them and yes, one of them is commitment issues. They are so into themselves that they break every rule in the book pertaining to the feelings of mankind. Stay clear! Usually these people have to be "stroked" constantly to enhance their egos and they also feel they are better than everyone else. They feel they are smarter, are better looking and have all the answers in the universe. They are perfectionists (only in their own mind) and they sincerely believe that anyone that can possibly become close to them is the lucky person. That's why it gives them great pleasure to break-up the relationship before the other person does. Marcy My N did not have commitment issues, more he was always talking about marriage and he had children. It was him to bring up commitment as something he wanted. Then again, he also liked to talk and never show things. I wondered sometimes if his want for commitment was simply to rope me. I think they may say they want it, but never actually follow through. In my case there definitely seemed to be a link. My N had strongly hinted that he also wanted to get married when I fell pregnant (not accidentally but after a discussion). But when I brought it up very carefully after having our baby he completely denied the fact it had been on the agenda, despite me clearly pointing out conversations when we had discussed it when he denied saying the things I knew he had said (few women forget things like that I feel!) This seemed to kick start many of our problems as when I tried to express my hurt over the fact I felt confused and mislead about his intentions, (we had already discussed trying for another baby and I could not understand how he could be happy to have a child with someone and yet not marry them unless he was anti marriage which he was not) he got angrier and angrier and started then saying that he had decided that my personality wasn't what he wanted in terms of a future partner and he would need to see changes before considering me as a wife!