How can you control your 17-year-old daughter if she comes and goes as she pleases and talks back calling you stupid and she dropped out of school and is seeing a boy against whom she pressed charges?

Answer 1

Your daughter is spoiled and was out of control long before she hit 17. Mid-teens are the worst because they are part child/part adult and are flexing their independence. There really isn't anything you can do. Just do a lot of praying and hope she comes to her senses. It's hard, but she has to either learn the hard way or wise up and realize she is making a mistake. The harder you push her the harder she'll push back and become defiant. She is almost of age so save yourself the energy. You can tell her you don't like it and try to give advice, but teens at this age often feel adults DON'T UNDERSTAND! Yeah, like we've had our head under a rock all these years! Your daughter has to learn to make her own decisions and whether she is right or wrong she needs to know that she also has to pay the consequences for mistakes she makes. When she makes mistakes DON'T bail her out. Don't say one word, but whatever you do, let her crawl out of her own messes no matter how hard it is for you. There is hope because young women grow up sooner or later and eventually you will have a decent relationship with your daughter when she's a little older and has matured more. Good luck